my friend has just brought home her 2yr old dd

[hudsonriver1]

Hi. Im just after some advice as never had experience of this.

My friend brought home her dd last week aged 2

We are getting together next week, I cant wait! Do I get her a pressie/ card etc?

Any ideas please!

Very excited!

Yes yes yes present card bubbles Chocs the works !!! Can u b my friend xxxx

Yes, a cad and pressie would be a great idea.

Something lovely and age appropriate but if I were you I would give gift to her and not the child in case she is limiting gifts etc so as not overwhelm little one.

Card not cad!!

Things that can be kept special can be nice! I mean is it a gift for mum or child?

Do I get her a pressie/ card etc? yes of course!

Where are you meeting? Does she have children already or is this all new to her? Don;t be surprised if she calls off - I couldn't have coped with visitors after a week or so but I know everyone is different.

Take flowers/choclates/food/ small present for child, don;t over stay your welcome and don;t leave a mess behind you if at her house. Same advice as your a newborn visit really.

A very simple necklace for her with her DD's initial on.

We both have dd age 11, grew apart slightly but see each other still. They were always ttc. Then went thrpuhh adoption and cant believe they have a dd! I am ttc with problems so its hard for me. Im a childminder and have lots of little ones so she is coming over next week. Im so happy for her but a little anxious as. Will little one call her mum? It will be strange for me to see her with a little one of that makes.sense?

Im so happy for her. When she found out she was adopting her I went round with a card and flowers as I was so chuffed

If she is coming to you then fair enough - she can control when to leave and leave her mess behind! No idea if her new DS will even be talking - DS didn't really speak until he was 3. You should just follow her lead.

The first couple of weeks can be very hard depending on circumstances

You sound a lovely friend we were overwhelmed with other peoples kindness when our DS's first came home, I kept all the cards in their memory box (or giant tub as it's now becoming!!)

When a friend of my SIL adopted, we were allowed to take a small gift etc but what was more important was that we were told not to try to hug, kiss or pick them up as they had attachment issues.
They were 2 and 4 and the 2 yr old would apparently have just gone off with anyone who showed affection as she hadn't quite bonded or understood that the nice lady was forever mummy and that she was staying.

I don't know who right or wrong it was but it did make me stop and think a bit