From birth?

[Mama1980]

Hi some of you know my storyteller dd s birth mother is pregnant again. I was told today that If I agree to take the baby she will consent which is neither here nor there in the long term as it will be.a court ordered removal but would mean I could in theory take the baby from birth. Does anyone have any experiment of how this works in practice at all please?
I haven't reached my decision yet I just need as much info as possible to get things clear and as usual ss are as clear as mud!

Sorry, nothing I know about, but hope someone helpful comes along soon!

Hope it all works out whatever you decide. Sorry, no advice to add.

Hi perhaps it would be a bit like a concurrent planning placement? In concurrent planning babies are placed, sometimes from birth, with the family that will most likely go on to adopt them. However at first it is a fostering situation (i.e. you'd need to be approved as a fosterer). Because apparently the courts cannot make the decision that a child is to be adopted right when he/she is born, so accordingly the baby can't be placed for adoption. But CAN be fostered with a family who then later will adopt.

If it is at all like this, you could gain some ideas from discussions about concurrent planning. I've been looking into this a bit as an option myself and see lots of advantages for the child - only one move, from birth family directly to prospective adoptive family, being the main one. You'd be paid as a foster carer initially (in concurrent planning, that is), however you wouldn't get adoption leave until later (if applicable). Disadvantages being, even though it all sounds as if the baby would then later be adopted by you, you cannot be 100% sure. If baby would later go back to BM, that could create quite a fall-out. Particularly for your DD. I think legally it is impossible for you to be absolutely certain that the baby will remain with you, so that is what you probably need to think about most, and question the people you are dealing with most. And you'd need to think about how exactly you were going to talk to your DD about the uncertainty inherent in the duration of her sibling's stay with you. Let alone how you might deal with the unlikely but possible situation of baby going back to BM.
Also, although BM says now that she will consent, she might change her mind, or, though she continues to consent, might insist on contact until the adoption order goes through. So you'd have to think about how you'd manage contact (could well be in the order of 3x 3h per week), and of course also how that would affect your DD.
I'd try to find out as much as possible before you make up your mind!