Sigh, is this what it's going to be like - or am I being unrealistic?

[Ahhhtetley]

So after myself and my DH decided to adopt I did the usual, reading lots, forums and any info I could get my hands on. We had a cooling off period for us both to ensure it was still what we wanted then.......

I spoke to an adoption agency 6 weeks ago and they sent me a pack with a form to fill out to arrange for the initial social worker visit.

I sent this off 4 weeks ago, heard nothing for the first 2, rang last week and was told that they would be having a team meeting this week and we'd be allocated a social worker then, if I hadn't heard anything by Thursdsay then to ring. Anyway, I hadn't, so I've just rung and been told we still hadn't been allocated a SW and ring again next Thursday as they have a team meeting on Wednesday and I will 'probably' be allocated one then.

I know the process is a long one, and I'm probably just being over enthusiastic about it, but is this what it's going to be like?

A friend of mine was told by her SW that she was concerned how she would cope with a child who made a mess in her home, as it was always spotless. She was very house proud.
So, having a show home can go against you, so clean the bathroom and kitchen and sit back and be yourself and try and enjoy the visit.

Same here moomoomie,dh is a clean/ tidy freak and that was a major concern of agency.he did truthfully say he would find it difficult. We have 2 Dds now and they drive him crazy with the mess,I do have to pull him up about it.
I'm really messy so we have a bit of balance.
It drove me crazy all the waiting around,even after dd1 I couldn't wait to start on dd2.
Take time to get your affairs in order. I did loads of stuff before they came,filing,tidying etc so I wouldn't have to bothers when they were here. Dh and I also did a couple of city breaks we knew would be difficult with kids.

You may have to do a lot in. Short period of time if you are matched quickly. Your home will have to be child proofed,window locks,stair gates etc. look at baby guff,buggies,cots etc. feeding bottles and nappies totally flummoxed me.are you used to dealing with babies/toddlers? If not could you babysit some,feed,bathe,clothe etc.
It seems a long wait,we'll with it for us tho.

Good luck today tetley, I'll keep my fingers crossed for you x

Phew that's, that done and he didn't want any biscuits!! I scrubbed the house and then he didn't want to look around either no biscuits and no house inspection - is it a sign?

Anyway he was here for nearly 2 hours, I felt it went well (up until my dh joked about a criminal record - I could have throttled him - he did ensure the SW knew he was joking) lots if questions asked and answered for both parties.

He also didn't think my anxiety would be an issue

Next step is to fill out some more paperwork...

no they don't eat the biscuits. They aren't there to eat, they are there as a subtle sign that shrieks "we are lovely normal unpretentious people who can parent a child" which is why selection is so important.

CHoose a rich tea biscuit at your peril (not sufficient importance) but anything too fancy (designer iced biscuits in the shapes of shoes or cupcakes perhaps) shrieks "we are too precious for children".

Its vital I tell ya.

Ohhhhh have I just scuppered my chances going for Chocolate Hobnobs??? Are they too chavvy, or, hopefully the chocolate makes them more errrrm middle class

my suggestion is generally chocolate digestives. Chocolate hobnobs are borderline acceptable. If you want err towards the intellectual go for dark chocolate digestives

Off to see the SW tomorrow with all our forms etc - exciting stuff

good luck

Thanks, it all seems to be picking up in pace now

It take me and my hub 1 year and 1/2 to adopt but it so happy now or does seen long because it so thing u be wait for all ur life but them have to do it that way So u and up with the right math we have for son for 2 year now and can't Imagine no have his