What do you put on forms about birth family?

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I was filling out a form for DS's holiday club today and there's a section to complete if there are any people who legally should not have contact with the child. Easy for DS (there are none), not so easy for DD. Although the risk of her birth family tracking us down and turning up to collect her from something like a holiday club or nursery is pretty slim, I wondered whether I should really include details of her birth family on forms like these, and wondered what others do.

On one hand, should this situation arise, DD's birth family should not have access to her in this way. And in that case, the holiday club should know her background.

On the other hand, putting this information on a random form arguably increases the chances of someone finding out where she is, and also means explaining her position to people who really have no reason or right to know that she is adopted (DS is only there for one day this summer, for example). And they should only release children to the one or two named people on the form anyway, so all in all the risk is pretty low.

(DD's nursery do know that she is adopted, BTW, as I felt it relevant to helping her settle and manage any behaviour issues that might arise, rather than any protection issues)

I wouldnt put it on a form,for the reasosn you have mentioned. mostly because if they ARE at risk , this identifies them

I guess it's designed for families where a parent or family member has a legal order against them forbidding them from contact. Which probably doesn't apply to your DD anyway

I wouldn't put the info but would try and have a private word with the manager/head person. I always stress that we have a protected address due to our adoption - this usually conveys the right message to people without having to go into too much detail.

BTW if you have a security issues, the fewer people who know your child is adopted, the better.

I wouldn't put names but have written something like 'x is adopted and for their security it is particularly important you dot release them to people other than those authorised'.

That's for school and nursery, for an ocasional holiday club I think I might bank on them having sensible procedures in place for not releasing to unknown persons - unless you felt the risk was substantial. In that case I think I'd have a personal word with the manager.

Thanks. The risk is low, in that all members of the birth family are engaged through letterbox etc, and no reason to suppose they would try to track us down. So not saying anything unless relevant for a particular reason sounds right to me. Thanks again.