Friends recently adopted

[weirdbird]

I wanted to get them a card and balloon, but there is a distinct lack of cards/balloons that are relevant.

Would a balloon saying "its a boy/girl" have offended you when you had adopted>?

Same with a card, was going to avoid cards with baby pics but its hard to find anything relevant

Or would a generic "Congrats" be better?

I am probably overthinking this, but I am so excited for them and don't want to dim there joy by being insensitive

All advice appreciated

Not offended, but I agree they seem a bit baby orientated (and presumably your friends haven't adopted a baby?). A generic congrats card would be fine (it's what I have sent to my fellow adopters)

I have seem congrats on adoption cards in card shops
Prob Clinton's!

They are still quite little under 2 years old

Can you make a card? My friend did this for us and it was so thoughtful she was the only one who gave anything A balloon would not offend and their DC would love it.

Stealth, the problem with "congrats on the adoption" cards, is that there's still a bit of a process to go before they have legally completed the adoption. That's why I stick with generic congrats.

Moonpig might have something that you can customise?

Just buy a nice blank card and write a suitable message inside it!!

Oh I see, so the day itself hasn't happened but the child is living with them. Yes, then a blank or congrats card with a sentence about them being a family sounds lovely.

We got loads of generic congrats cards, which was lovely :)

I wouldn't go down the it's a boy/girl route, I would have found that a bit strange when we adopted (and our children were under 2 when we adopted) Having said that, it's each to their own with these type of things.

When I adopted DS he was 10 months and on the day he came home to live with us I received all the flowers ,gifts and cards that you would receive if you brought a new born home from hospital.

I loved it!

Some people avoided the typical baby cards and I understand why but I really loved being treated like any other new mother.

The adoption cards were received on his actual adoption celebration day which was 6 months later.

If your friend's new child is older then a home made or moonPig card congratulating them on becoming patents would be good.

Whatever the age of the child I would send flowers to the new mum and a small welcome gift for the child.

Becoming parents not patents. Sorry!

I loved any card - I really wasn't too bothered about what it said. It really was the thought that counted. I had some home made cards, some congratulations cards and some baby cards (DS was 1) which talked about the "arrival" of you baby.

Don't think I had any adoption cards but certainly wouldn't have bothered me if I had or hadn't.

So yes you are overthinking a bit but in a nice way! Agree small bunch of flowers for mum and small present for baby (perhaps something to keep like a photoframe).

I got cards, and loved them all, regardless of what they said :) I got congratulations, It's a Girl/Boy, lots of different ones

When I adopted DD2 (having only been approved to adopt a girl)My best friends read
"IT'S A GIRL"
She put, "What a surprise " on the inside

It made me laugh so much

When we adopted our first two dd's we received an It's a boy card from a work colleague of mine!
Because dd2 has a name which can be used for either sex, she assumed it was a boy.
She was mortified, but I found it amusing.
A generic blank card to write your own message is fine.
Many people forget about cards ang gifts when you adopt. You sound very thoughtful.

Yep, any cards were welcome here too, I was not offended by anything as I know how hard it is to get adoption cards though we never got boy/girl cards but we did get one with Your New Home from our neighbour, she apologised profusely and said it was only because she couldn't get anything suitable, I was simply touched by the thought.

My Mum got me a card that said:

Whether you think you can,
Or think you can't,
You're right.

It's in a little frame, look at it often...as I often need reminding .