hi,our dd was 5.5 when we got dd2. we didnt say anything initially but she opened my post and found photos of prospective children, i explained we were looking for a sister for her when we finally chose dd2.
we did try and get dd2 before xmas but were held up with paperwork,we didnt start speaking about it again until the week before introductions,by then we had photos to show her and had chosen a new name.
we had to travel quite far for intros and took my parents with us as we met dd2 on our own for the first time. the day after my parents brought dd1 to have a short visit. they bonded immediatley,it was hard leaving dd2 at the foster carers though and dd1 found that difficult to understand.
we also had to wait 4 days after intros for foster carers to bring her to us,she then had to stay in a hotel overnight and we collected her the next morning.
we let dd1 show dd2 around the house,she was a year old. we bought a gift from dd2 to dd1 which went down a treat. they are both really fond of each other.
the second time is easier,i just wanted it over with asap. good luck