wider adoptive family

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adoptiveaunty · 12/04/2011 13:20

I am an adoptive aunty!!! a finalisation?/ calebration hearing is to be arranged. Can anyone tell me what that is about and what goes on??

Also how is it appropriate to celebrate? gifts? cards?

I know its all about the parents and the child but the rest of the family are so pleased and excited too. Its been a blooming long time coming!

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ByTheSea · 12/04/2011 19:10

I am an adoptive auntie and absolutely gave gifts and cards when my nephew came home. We all love him sooooo much.

ladysybil · 12/04/2011 19:11

i dont know, but wish i could be in your shoes, congratulations :)

Bar23 · 13/04/2011 11:20

Lovely that you are so excited. No experience as an aunt but as an adopted child I would guess presents etc would be welcome in the same way as for a new baby (obviously type of present would be different!).

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adoptiveaunty · 13/04/2011 11:57

The child has been placed for a while but have only just got the AO done. It feels like the end of a very, very, very long road. Before everything is signed and sealed there is always that fear that something can go wrong. But now we are officially a forever family. I can't begin to tell you all how happy we all are, and as a massive bonus the child is a fantastically lovely child who has settled in so well.

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adoptiveaunty · 13/04/2011 12:04

Ladysybil~ there has been much heartbreak, several failed at the last hurdle compettitive matches (bloody horrific way to do things if you ask me), and many times when we all doubted it would ever happen.

As far as I know my sibling (trying to be vague for obvious reasons) and spouse have been trying, one way or another, to be parents for the last 12 to 14 years. So its about blooming time for it to be their turn. And for it to involve such a special child is an even greater blessing.

I hope it is your family members time very very soon xxx

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ladysybil · 13/04/2011 12:23

:) Thank you auntie :)) wishing you all a happy life together

DayDreamingDaisy · 13/04/2011 12:31

We held a celebration party when our AO was approved by the court - with family and close friends in attendance. It was a wonderful time. My DC received some extremely precious gifts that they can cherish for a lifetime. Indeed a very special day. Congratulations to you and your family!

UniS · 13/04/2011 12:40

We gave our adoptive Nieces and nephews engraved child size cutlery as an adoption present. Rather like a christening present IYSWIM. still in use many years later.

Blatherskite · 13/04/2011 13:00

Not an adoptive auntie but just wanted to say that a welcome gift sounds like a really lovely idea. How wonderful for that child to be able to look back and see how much they were wanted and loved!

I'd go for Christening type gitfs if it were me I think. A silver money box, childrens cutlery, a music box etc. Maybe even a photo album for them and the parents to fill with photos of their new forever family :)

Wishing you all a very happy future together

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