Beginner - any advice?

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Hi,

I have namechanged.

Do we sound like good candidates for adoption?

Me 42, him 38
No children of our own
I've had two miscarriages this year (I know I will need time to get over them before considering adoption)
I work full time, but could go part time and would, high tax bracket earner
He runs a business from home (printing) and would be the SAHD, working around times that I could be at home
We have been together 18 months, lived together for eight.

I am still technically married (ex is dragging the divorce out)

Live in a rented house, but I will own my own home (which I'll rent out until the market picks up)

Active, enjoy outdoors, fun loving, both of us have lovely families, no troubles.

Both clean criminal records, both have lots of experience with babies and children (lots of neices/nephews and we've both taken an active part in their lives)

I have a (now grown up) step-daughter from my marriage, was in her life since she was a toddler, she thinks I'd make an excellent mum (so does her mum) and has said they'd both give me a reference.

I have suffered with depression in the past, but am fine, and have had lots of counselling (am almost certain my counselling psychologist counsellor would give me a character reference) and am now off anti-depressents - it's never held me back career wise or any other wise.

I am still hoping that we will have our own, but can't see me dealing with any more than three miscarriages, so am starting to think about other options.

Just wanted to thank everyone. I realise that right now I am definately not ready to even think about adoption. I need time to ttc again once more and then possibly go for assisted conception.

I think for me to be ready to adopt, and be assessed and most importantly be a good adoptive parent, I will need to be much more to terms with what has happened this year and probably to have exhausted all other routes.

But thank you all so much for your help and advice. I've realy appreciated the honesty here, even though some of it shocked me a little.

If you have been TTC for 8 months and havealreday conceived twice then that's a good sign. You really need to see your gp NOW. There might be a perfectly straightforward reason for you mc, such as thyroid problem, that could be easily treated.

Some gps take the view that two mc are not significant, but given your age you should ask for some simple blood tests etc now, rather than waiting.

Why don't you try the TTC threads here on mums net, there are lots of women who have healthy babies in their 40s, I had two ! ( siblings not twins)

Good luck

Hi, Kristina yes - it's great going at my age, I stopped the pill last October (after twenty plus years on it), and conceived in April and September. I am just hoping the two miscarriages are 'bad luck.

I've seen my GP - and the gynae consultants - consultants very reluctant to do any recurrent miscarriage tests, but GP more helpful - and has agreed that at my age I ought to be tested for the various things (February tests showed good ovulation, etc).

I'm a regular on the TTC thre

How lovely that you had children in your 40's - it really does give me hope that it is possible. A lady in my mum's street had her first, without assistance, at 46!!!

Just another thanks to all of you - I am realising I do need to keep TTC and that adoption if it becomes an option, will be a while away for us, if at all.