She is prioritising smart of course. Or to be more accurate - appropriate. She wants to follow the ( unwritten ) rules, she just doesn’t know what they are.
She is neurodiverse. If someone says to her “ Just wear what’s comfortable” when they actually mean “ Wear a version of office clothing that you find the least uncomfortable “ , she will be confused.
She will take it literally and wear a weird men’s tee shirt , oversized dungarees , DM and large dangly earrings that look like Jaffa cakes . Because that’s what she finds comfortable.
So comfortable has several meanings here . Eg
clothes that allow you to move freely, suitable for the climate , in soft fabrics that hardly touch your body
clothes that express who you are a person and align with your values
clothes that will fit in with with what others expect of someone of your age, sex and role.
So that’s why it doesn’t help when one supervisor said “ Oh just wear what you want “.
I suspect the supervisor actually means “ I feel uncomfortable giving fashion advice to students” . Or “ Is this one of these issues that might get me in trouble with the D&I people ? “ .
Im pretty sure she doesn’t mean that DDs normal style will work on the conference platform. And DD knows that - that’s why she asked.
It’s so helpful when posters here say clear things like “ blouse and trousers” , “ non see through knee dress with sleeves “ or “ blazer “.
Or “ she doesn’t need high heels and make up or a business suit “.
Thank you everyone for your helpful comments . DD is asking the other supervisor today in the hope of more useful information.