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My DD is overweight and I have a history of eating disorders

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Shookethtothecore · 29/05/2023 07:56

Hello. I really want to make sure I get this right and I think I will always have a trigger to n this subject.
Dd3 is clearly overweight. She’s my youngest of 3 and wants what her sisters want so she absolutely eats too much. I am really upset about it and need to make sure I handle it correctly. I was always an overweight kid in the 90s and it was tough. My mother handled it the best she could but I was really effected by it and comments and then spend my teens in eating disorder clinics.
I was Dd to be healthy and make healthy n choices without giving her a complex. I have not mentioned her weight to anyone obvs and she is blissfully unaware
but how do I get a toddler into a healthy weight? Obviously she won’t diet, and I know about healthy eating and cook from scratch ect. It’s just she wants what her sister have all the time and her sisters are older and do alot of sports so have snacks ect that she is having too. I don’t want her to be singled out?

with my history I just want to make sure I get this right and could use some help.

thank you

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LimeChelle · 29/05/2023 08:51

No advice but following with interest. I was very overweight as a child in the 90's and although I've never been diagnosed i blatantly by my own admission have an eating disorder of varying tendencies, and very poor body image. I now have a little girl and due to genes she is not going to be blessed with being able to not worry about her weight and eat whatever she wants. I worry about it so much, I don't want her to grow up with the issues and feelings of being inadequate like I have.
Sending much love and wishing u all the best, I'm sure your an amazing mum to your beautiful daughters xxx

NotAnAngelOrAHero · 29/05/2023 08:58

www.firststepsnutrition.org/eating-well-early-years

I find first steps nutrition advice to be gold standard. Look at the link and all the different pdf's on that page. They also have advice re portion sizes and I reckon you'd be quite shocked by it, I was!

Suzi9989 · 29/05/2023 09:10

Portion control and get mini versions. Get professional help for your Relationship with food so you can manage this with your DCs

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Whataretheodds · 29/05/2023 09:20

Smaller plate and cutlery for her to help with portion sizes.

Don't let your 11 year old and DD2 have free rein on crisps and chocolate - just because they're not putting on weight doesn't mean it's not bad for them. Healthier snacks would be apple with peanut butter, hummus and crudités. Etc

Arewehumanorarewecupboards · 29/05/2023 09:54

they snack on ham. Fruit, crisps and chocolate typically

To be honest I would stop buying these snacks apart from the fruit.

BungleandGeorge · 29/05/2023 10:09

Can you afford to pay for a couple of sessions with a registered dietitian? Without the children there. some of the advice on these threads is not good advice and you want to avoid encouraging ED and other issues.
also popcorn is a choking risk for toddlers

Crumbcatcher · 29/05/2023 10:22

I really wouldn't ask your older DC to eat snacks away from the youngest! That is setting them up for disordered eating.

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