wwyd if your friends excluded your kids from her kids birthday party

[cakechick]

I have been baking cakes in my spare time for the past 3 years now, and a friend of mine asked me to bake a cake for each of her 2 kids for their joint birthday party - then she emailed me and said that we weren't invited. Is it me, or is that rude?

No, that's rude...unless she pays you as you run a cake making business?

Email her back with a quote for the cakes.

Is she your friend, or are the children all friends? If it's a case of you and her are friends, then you shouldn't expect her to invite her friends' children to her child's party.

Do you charge for the cakes or do them as a favour?
Are your kids friends?

Are your dc actually friends of theirs? Or is it you and her that are the friends. I would not necessarily expect my children to be invited to my friends dc party. What age are the dc. Possibly if they are at different schools and older they may have their own friends who are higher on the list as it were.

If they are friends then YANBU

Is that you and she are friends and the children played together but are now at school and so don't really see each other?

And liking the idea of sending her the bill for cakes

We've been friends for over 15 years, and so far we've been going to each other's dc birthday parties every year, and every year I do a cake for her dc and yes, she does pay me, but I find it odd that she would call me up, ask me to do the cakes, and then say my kids are not invited because she wants to keep the numbers low and then invited all our single friends who don't have kids. Why not say nothing and buy the cake from somewhere else?

how old are the dc and are they friends with yours though or just the 2 mums friends whose kids meet up when you do sort of thing?

Why is she inviting childless adults to her kids birthday party?

Sounds like it's a party for her, not them?

Very strange.

How bizarre. You would think that if she didn't want to offend you then yes, she would get the cake from elsewhere and not mention it. Seems like all she can achieve by doing what she has is hurting your feelings. Do you think she meant to offend you?

Her ds is 3 and my dc are 5. She has a one year old dd. we usually meet up at our dc's birthday parties and catch up then. Our dc play really well together when we do meet up.

Personally, I would never do that to a friend.

Appreciate everyone's feedback though, thank you!

rude.

very rude. I don't understand why she is not inviting your dc's. I wouldn't be making a cake for her again or being friends with someone like that.