WWYD about this random old bloke who has added DD on facebook?

[MadreInglese]

To avoid DD(12) being the only social outcast child at her secondary school with freaky hippy parents we agreed that she could set up a (heavily monitored) facebook account.

She's been very sensible with it, the family computer is in full view in the dining room so she is not on it unsupervised and I regularly spy check to see what she's been doing. She never adds anyone without checking with me first.

Now recently she has had a friend request from some old guy who is the grandfather of one of her school friends. She has never met him, or even been to this lad's house. I sent the guy a polite message asking if he could confirm how he knew my DD but he has not responded. That was a month ago.

Do I just leave it or do anything else (don't know what else I could do tbh)? He's not done anything wrong but it just seems a bit, erm, odd. The weird alarms are going off and DP's all for getting the pitchforks out.

WWYD?

Isn't there an option to just decline the invite altogether? I'd do that - if she doesn't know him and he hasn't responded to your message, I'd would get rid of the invitation and not worry about it any further.

facebook does all sorts of weird automated invitations by sorting through your address book. I mistakenly friend-requested a load of DH's work mates due to that - I allowed it to search our shared address book and it automatically invited everyone in it to become a friend.

It's perfectly possible he's done something similar and doesn't even realise he's requested your DD. I wouldn't stress any further.

i'd just ignore it, if he's bothered he'll contact her/you directly surely?

Ignore it. It has to be accepted (which I'm guessing hasn't been done) before info can be shared.

Our rule is that if my son doesn't know the person personally in real life and/or is not friends with them, again in real life, then they may not be my son's Facebook friend.

I would make my son decline and then block. Blocking isn't evil - it just allows someone to completely disappear from a person's view.

Personally, I think you're overthinking it!

I suppose it could be one of those automated things, it's just odd he's not responded to my message.

Ho hum.

well he may not have responded to the message because he doesn't realise he invited your DD and thought "strange message, maybe someone's trying to scam me - better ignore".

Or it's possible he opened a facebook account purely to view some photos or something and has never looked at it since.

Or maybe he just doesn't check his messages - I don't. Every now and again I will log in and find half a dozen, but facebook is not how I communicate with people and I registered with my "spam" email address.

Honestly - I would just delete the request and put it out of your mind.

ok, ignored

you lot will convince DP if I send him on here later, won't you?

I'd get rid of it. (Him as a friend).

INAPPROPRIATE

and

UNNECESSARY.

esoecially if he won't have contact with you.