but i'll ask anyway
I've arranged my sons' christenings for the end of july, to coincide with ds1's birthday. We'll be having a big party... mostly for ds1's birthday but the priest was kind enouh to give us a christening date for the weekend we were having his birthday party anyway so it'll be a joint christening/birthday bash.
I arranged the date weeks ago but have just found out that all my english cousins will be over visiting at the time as it's my uncle's birthday a week later and they're having a big do.
My mother thinks i shouldn't mention it to them as they'll all feel obligatd to come and bring presents and i do agree to a certain extent but i also think if they find out i'm holding a party and haven't invited them they'll think it's incredibly rude of me. They most likely will find out as our kids are similar ages and will be playing together lots for the two weeks they're over, not to mention all the irish family will be at it as my younger cousin will be ds2's godfather and my parents will obviously be there too so we'll all be conspicuously absent from the area they'll be staying in (where my aunt and parents live) for the day.
So how do i invite them without it sounding like i've purposefully arranged the christening for when they're over to get more gifts? (the boys will be 4 and 17 months so the christening has been delayed massively already so it is going to look a little odd me ringing them right after they let us know the dates they're arriving and announcing it's on three days after they get here)
Such a mess, we had assumed they were coming over for the fisrt two weeks of august and i had purposeully arranged the party for before then to avoid this awkwardness!