dh in strip poker game

[HonneyBollyKnickers]

DH has just come back from a trip. While he was gone he received a msg from a (female) friend with pictures attached of dh and her and a male friend in various stages of being undressed. From the pics it looks like it was some sort of strip poker game.
Ihave not mentioned to him that I have seen the message (went into our junk folder), but noticed that he has deleted it without saying anything.
Am now wondering what I should do. Just forget about it? Or ask him about it?

ummm, you should ask him about it of course!

Honney did you ask your DH about it? I wouldn't have been happy about something like that - can't imagine any decent excuse for it

Well, if it bothers you (and I assume it does, or why post?) then you need to ask him about it. You won't be able to just "forget" it will you? I know I wouldn't - I'd have to know what had happened, and why he had thought it was ok. Some people may have relationships where that would be fine and no big deal - but if that was the case, I doubt you'd be asking for advice!

thanks for the advice.
and yes, it does bother me... not so much that he took part in the game (which could have been peer pressure after a number of drinks), but that he hid the fact that he did.

I'm surprised you haven't asked him yet! Do you know the woman? Would she normally email your DH to your (I presume joint?) email account?

Ask him FFS - his reaction will tell you most of what you need (or possibly don't need) to know.

no, i don't know her. she's the GF of the other friend in the pics. my dh knew her from many years back.
i guess she did not know that the email is joint... or possibly she did it on purpose to shock me?
most upsettingly she looks really fit.
ah well, at least she didn't post the pics to facebook for everyone to see....
(yet).
i think you're all right. i'll try and talk about it.

Good luck.

Good luck, let us know how it goes.

Have you spoken to him yet?
Hope all is ok?

thanks all for the messages.
all is well here. i talked to dh on sunday.
it turns out that he was taken by his friends (the guy and the "fit" girl) to this pub/place to play bingo. htey had not mentioned anything about it being strip bingo, and for the first part of the evening they had dinner, (loads of) drinks and then started playing bingo. then it turned out that you were expected to remove pieces of your clothing.
dh was shocked but did not want to seem to chicken out.
he has shown me the pics now, and he does actually look pretty embarassed on most of the pics.
he only deleted the msg as he did not want the dc to click on it (they have access to our computer as well), and did not want it to end up in his work email (as he checks our home email there as well). and then he had forgotten about the whole thing (massive jetlag).
he has apologised for the episode.
so that's all really.