MIL buying stuff for DSS's but never for DS

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So yet again, MIL visited at the weekend (DSS's were at our's) and brings gifts for them both, but nothing for DS. Now thankfully he is not yet old enough to notice, but of course he soon will be. She does this all the time and it is really starting to annoy me, not least because it is so thoughtless leaving him out, but because he really will soon start to notice and this won't be nice for him at all

What does your dh/dp say about it?

He is the one who should tackle this issue with his Mum.

I'd worry when he starts noticing tbh and let MIL he's upset (if in fact he is). If he's a baby what does he need? What ages are dss's and ds?

fran - he's not a baby, he's 2. For example she went out on Sat afternoon and brought the 2 DSS's packets of sweets. I had to give DS a packet I had in the house so he wasn't left out. She also buys the DSS's fancy clothes, games, easter eggs etc.

earlybird I agree - unfortunately DH is one of those who would rather keep the peace than say anything

Either you ignore/live with it, insist dh address the problem, or confront your MIL (in an initially non-confrontational way perhaps similar to your OP).

Not that it matters, but is ds your MIL's blood grandchild?

Then I'd ask where ds's pressie/sweets were. Is she a bit thick normally? My 2 yo nephew pick pocketed my tic tacs at the weekend - no leaving him out of anything .

earlybird - yes, her blood grandchild

fran - thick, yes! Think you're right, I should just ask where DS's sweets are. On DH's birthday last year she even bought DH a present from the DSS's and not from DS. I had already bought DH presents from all 3 of them and was

If DH won't say anything you'll have to. Next time she does it ask where DS sweets/presents are, then tell her she's not welcome to visit unless she treats DS like the DSs

I'd be tempted to keep treats in the house and next time she does it then give her one of the treats and ask her to give it to him "beacause he's starting to notice and feel a bit left out"

muminbeds that's a very good idea, thanks