hi- am struggling 5 years on with where we live, feel v alone and not one good friend where I live although I have tons of acquaintances, dp has several good friends. I got off to a rocky start here and felt homesick for where we used to live, missing friends, city life so think i gave out negative vibes at the important first impression stage with people.
I feel v wary as feel a bit "stung" having trusted a couple of people here about v private, tricky things re dp/family issues and it nows seems to be a barrier, used against me almost. We seem to hang out/have kids same age as a v competitive, rather superficial crowd with whom I don't feel at home, although dp is desperate to find a way in and admittedly has good friendships with the guys. I don't feel comfortable with the women in this group and only want to do the bare minimum, preferring to spend time with old friends from before our move. It's a v small town and feel there's no-one really left to try to be-friend. What to do?? Dp won't entertain moving and we'd be selling at a loss if we did.
sorry if i'm sounding paranoid here, i realise this may not sound serious but it's affecting the kids/my relationship with dp and i feel trapped, lonely and in danger of sinking here.
any tips from any one who's been here??