DD kicked by fellow sports player

[KaoticKittty]

Need some advice as I am completely at a loss as to what to do.

My 16 yr old DD plays a competitive sport (don't want to name which one so that I'm not outed).

Today, she was playing against a 15 yr old lad and they had an argument over the scoring. He got in a strop and aimed a ball at her, missed, she laughed and he stormed off.

On her way out she meets him in the corridor and she says, nicely, "bye, see you next week". He didn't say anything, just kicked her, hard in the ribs. She yelled at him and he stood over her yelling back. He walked off and she went and found her coach and told her what had happended. The coach said she would have a word but DD shouldn't have wound him up during the game as he had ADHD (is that correct?).

What would you do now, if anything?

Does she do martial arts of any sort and is it licensed?

DH is a TKD instructor and has said that if it is martial arts, they are not allowed to use it this way and could lead to the boy being kicked out of his club/group. Highly frowned upon.

No, it is a racket sport. Although they do have to be members of an association, which also frowns on this type of behaviour.

Thing is she was hurt fairly badly, as in it still hurts now and she's in pain if she laughs. There's no bruising however.

I thought the coach may have contacted me but I haven't heard anything.

I'd just have a word at the next training session unless he contacts you first. Not a nice thing to happen to your DD.

so lets get this straight...
your dd has been physically assaulted and the person in charge is blaming your dd for provoking the attacker because he suffers from ADHD?
er I don't think so..
I'd be making an official complaint quicker than you read this post.

ADHD is not an excuse for an assault and the coach is doing him no favours by not tackling it.Were his parents there?

Ingles - yeah, that's basically it. The coach is normally fantastic at dealing with anything so am a little at her reaction. Im not sure who to approach.

5inthebd - I will go and see the coach on Wednesday when DD plays next anyway. I mean, if it happened at school, I would be contacting the Headteacher. But this is a little ambiguous IYSWIM because it happened afterwards, when the coach had finished supervising.

Cornsilk - all the 15/16 yr old kids tend to get there under there own steam, so no parents about.

Kitty,.. I would send a message now saying you'd like to talk to her about this incident on Wed.
I really don't think this should be let go.
I have every sympathy for SN's...ds2 has SN's but that is not an excuse for assault! Some one should have been responsible for this child, if their behaviour can be unpredictable!

Funny enough, I just decided that! I have emailed the coach, told her what DD said happened and asked for her take on it - hopefully that will open up the communication and we can sort it out.

I agree with you, if he can't be trusted to not hit someone when he gets upset, there should be something in place to help him.

I'm not sure what outcome I'm looking for. I can't see how they can guarantee her safety. Obviously during the lesson they can but how about afterwards? It seems a bit daft to have to meet a 16 yr old, in town, in the middle of the afternoon, just because of one lad.