I have a friend who I have known for about 5 or 6 years. Someone who I used to work with but have gone through lots with - dating our now respective husbands, getting married, settling down etc. We have always got on well, but her husband is a bit of a nob to be polite... whilst he means well he is a dreadful smug, showoff. Someone that really likes the sound of his own voice and opinions and really respects people who are basically rich and successful. He also sometimes acts a bit inappropriately and makes frankly rude and quite, well, inappropriate comments about various things. I guess you could say he is not my favourite person.
Anyway since they have had their daughter (and probably before) I feel like our friendship has really gone off the boil. For some reason, his one upmanship and need to compete always makes me feel that everything is a big contest and its just hard work. And that is rubbing off on my attitude to my friend if I'm being honest. I do my best not to let it, but we see each other less and less (she has a child) and since Xmas I have made umpteen suggestions to get together and have dinner etc but she never takes me up on it. Our partners are very different and I suspect her husband doesn't get on with mine or feel that we are the kind of friends that they should have. To be honest the more I write, the more I think, why am I even bothering worrying, but I do like my friend and I want us to be in each others lives in the future... but I feel like she is not that bothered anymore.
Would you say something or just let it go?