I have no idea what to do next

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My mum, grandma, of my two boys and my brothers three girls (all under 10) lives opposite a paedphile (gradma not kids).

Apparently (to local sources, trusted) he is just out of jail after eight year for abusing young boys. Him and his boyfriend have opened a business opposite my mum's house. Mum and him have a chat most mornings.

She (grandma) says he has paid a price for his crime and she would never let him near her grandchildren (my two sons and three neices) I always thought if my mum met someone like this she would kill them or arrange it. Mum says she can get his name and get him checked if need be.

What the hell?

get proper proof first

What makes you think you have to do anything?

What would I do? Keep the kids away and get on with my life.

What i would never ver do is advocate violence towards the man

I would keep an eye on my children and tell them to stay away from him.

That's all.

What are you suggesting "kill them or arrange it"?

No murdering suggested. But until this point my mum (aged 65 years) was of the zero tolerance. So when she said he seemed quite nice I was a little taken aback.

For eight years jail time I can imagine it must have been something serious. Until this point I hadn't given it too much thought but do you think they come out of jail rehabilatated? If so how? If you find children attractive (in that way - I feel sick even writing this) why would you stop?

No one can possibly answer that.

This is just an awful thread.

Sorry it does read like my mum would have them killed just for being there - figure of speech .

But if they did do something to her grandkids I think she would as would.

I am glad you came back and explained, I hd rep[orted this thread to MN for advocating violence!

Nothing you can do. move on.

What are these "local sources, trusted"? Your mum had better find out without a shadow of a doubt that this man is guilty of something very serious before she starts spreading the news any further. Assume that she is not actually going to kill him so will not comment on that bit! She doesn't even know his name yet!

I always thought if my mum met someone like this she would kill them or arrange it

WTF? And you'd let this person look after your kids?

I'm sure we all may say things in the heat of the moment. Sadly through working in the education system I have many Child Protection training sessions and no matter how may times I hear the horrific abuse which happens to chidren I am always shocked.

My mum would do everything in her power to protect the children in her care. As I said I have no idea what to do in this situation. Is there now a website whereby you can check the local area for registered paedephiles?

I think you must be sure of your facts. And just take care with your children its not that hard to know where they are and keep and eye on them or not let them play alone in front garden. where my daughter lived in a very very expensive upmarket area of LA, she was able to go online and see that there were 123 paeds living in that same area. She just never let the children out alone in the street.

My sister works in child protection.

According to her, very occasionally, a few offenders are genuinely rehabilitated but it is rare. Some can successfully "manage" their 'condition' for long periods of time but then relapse. The majority (around 65 to 70%) reoffend.

I would check it out officially with the police register. If the information comes back that your mum is definitely living opposite someone who is on the register, then there is a definite advantage in knowing so you can be aware and take reasonable precautions.