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Original poster

Know of a 14 year old who is not at school and not being HEd

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laughorcry · 01/04/2010 19:01

Just wondering whethere other people would consider reporting someting like this.

The family have returned from abroad (of necessity due to loss of a job)and one of the children (aged 14 I think - possibly 13) is still not at school nearly two years later.

His parents have his name down for various schools but are not prepared for him to go to the only local schools that he could get a place at. So he is just hanging around at school and seems to spend all day playing on his playstation.

Is this any of my business? If so, what should I do?

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blouseenthusiast · 01/04/2010 19:04

Some school refusers go to special units once or twice a week, could that be his situation? How much do you really know about the detail of his daily doings?

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laughorcry · 01/04/2010 19:16

I don't know a lot about what he actually does all day, but am in sporadic contact with his mum and know that he hasn't attended school at all since returning to the UK. She seems to feel that a decent school place will come along, or they may get the money to move back abroad, but I don't think she has really thought about how long this has been going on for or the effect it must be having on him.

You are right, though, that I don't know how far the decision not to go to school is coming from him and how far from the parents.

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blouseenthusiast · 01/04/2010 19:19

Hmmm, does thsi mean anything to you:

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laughorcry · 01/04/2010 19:21

yes

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laughorcry · 01/04/2010 19:21

now that is a coincidence

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laughorcry · 01/04/2010 19:22

you have namechanged!

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blouseenthusiast · 01/04/2010 19:22

mwahahahah.
She of a 1000 aliases.
Sorry, this may have wrecked this serious thread.

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laughorcry · 01/04/2010 19:23

have emailed you

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blouseenthusiast · 01/04/2010 19:23

I dodn't get the H M M job - failed the spray test. Is becoming a bit of a pattern, sigh...

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laughorcry · 01/04/2010 19:24

did you leave gaps or fail to get the right shade of orange?

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blouseenthusiast · 01/04/2010 19:27

I had incontrollable laughing fit when thong came off. This makes it look like am here all teh time - am never here!

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laughorcry · 01/04/2010 19:28

nor am I. Small virtual world, eh?

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blouseenthusiast · 01/04/2010 19:29
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laughorcry · 01/04/2010 19:30

I am also hiding from that thread about having a pension for your children.

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blouseenthusiast · 01/04/2010 19:35

Haven't seen that. Did you see there was a RollonFriday "invasion" at some stage - ah, memories...

blouseenthusiast · 01/04/2010 19:35

Haven't seen that. Did you see there was a RollonFriday "invasion" at some stage - ah, memories...

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laughorcry · 01/04/2010 19:40

Really? Sadly I can't remember my user name on there. Would be weird to do a search for threads we posted.

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blouseenthusiast · 01/04/2010 19:41

Something with merkin in it?

blouseenthusiast · 01/04/2010 19:41

Was one of us pashmina?

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laughorcry · 01/04/2010 19:42

hmm, possibly. Something pashmina related, maybe. Or shellfish-based?

Do you think they make any money with that site?

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blouseenthusiast · 01/04/2010 19:46

Maybe they ahve a line of books? The RoF guide to Merkin jokes?

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laughorcry · 01/04/2010 19:54

laughed out loud there.

Now trying to thinking of RoF book titles....

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laughorcry · 01/04/2010 19:54

Perhaps you could speak to Hugh G about RoF guide to work life balance?

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CoupleofKooks · 01/04/2010 20:00

ok thinking about the OP, this struck me:

"I don't know a lot about what he actually does all day"

how do you know he is not being HEd?
i don't know if you have any experience of HE, but it doesn't usually look like school

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laughorcry · 01/04/2010 20:11

Again, you're right that I don't know much about his day to day life, but I do know that he isn't HEd because his mum has told me. That seems to me the saddest thing about it. Both mum and dad are capable of HE and they live in an area which I suspect would have significant HE groups and resources. But it would take some effort and even though they are really nice people they don't seem to see that that effort really needs to be made (IMHO).

The problem is that there is no support from anyone because he has come from abroad, so simply doesn't exist as far as the UK authorities are concerned.

I should say I am very pro HE (was v unhappy at school myself and researched it and gave the info to my mum - to no avail sadly).

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