Daughter invited to a party on the same night that we all have to go to a wedding

[CarlaBruni]

We're B list so only going for the evening. They're not my family (are DP's) so I've no strong feelings either way - hardly know the couple but still nice to be asked and all that.

However, teen daughter has been invited to a party (not a booze one) that she obviously wants to go to instead. Do I let her and risk married couple maybe feeling a little slighted or do I put my foot down in the name of Duty? WWYD?

we never go to b list evening part of a wedding. so i would miss the wedding. send dh if he wants to go.

Do you really think they'll notice if your dd isn't there?

Assuming it would just be her not going...

I'd let her go the party - I can't imagine the couple getting married are that bothered whether your dd is there or not in all honesty Assuming they are not very close to your dd, it is probably an invite to your DP "and family", and they won't mind either way.

Oh good. It will be easier all round, certainly. Yes, must admit, wish we'd thought to say No earlier as well

Think Cat64 has it bang on, they are not going to be particularly slighted, nor does it sound as though it's an event where they need to have precise numbers for catering, but it's probably polite to say that yoru DD can't make it in advance.