Found out in December that DH had been flirting by text and email with his PA...I found a text, challenged him and he admitted that it had gone too far but not crossed the line (he kissed her twice after nights out). I believed him but couldn't stop snooping - found more emails and texts which made very unsavoury reading but showed that he was telling the truth about how far things had gone.
For 3 months I have been coping really well. W'd been getting on badly for a couple of years and this seemed to be the kick up the backside we both needed to get back on track. We totally love each other, always have, and I felt we could get through it.
But the last week has been hell, I keep going over everything I saw - I can't eat, I can't sleep, I have stomach cramp constantly, can't stop crying and am being vile to him which he can't understand because I think he was expecting this at the beginning not now. We love each other so much, we have 2 children and there is no question that I am going to throw the towel in, but I just can't cope with this pain.
They still work together which makes it so much worse. There is no question of him leaving as he is on career highway heading to the top, company is not so big that he could ask for her to be transferred (nor does he seem to think this is necessary as he said it was nothing).
Oh and he is 41 and she is 22....
Please help