Would you go to this funeral?

[ClaudiaSchiffer]

My friends mum died last week, I'm obviously very sad for my friend and want to support her. She has sent out a mass text to friends and family to say where the funeral is, but I haven't spoken to her personally about the funeral. Anyway I didn't really know her mum at all. Would you go to the funeral to support the friend or is it a bit mawkish and odd if I didn't know the mum???

I think you should go. It doesnt matter if you didnt know her mum, you will be going to support your friend.

I assume you friend has sent that text because she is hoping her friends will attend so she might be disappointed if you didnt.

I would go, I didnt go to the funeral of a friends dad, as at the time I felt that funerals were fairly private and didnt want to intrude on the family's grief, it is one of my biggest regrets, as feel he probably thinks I didnt care which was not the case at all. If she has sent a text with the funeral details I think this is a clear message that she is looking for your support.

If you can, go. It will be appreciated.

Yes, go.

I've been to two funerals of parents of my friends. I did in both cases know the parent but both times I slipped in at the back and kept a low profile, not intending to back to the do afterwards.

On both occasions my friend made a beeline for me as soon as they saw me and was so grateful that I went.

Yes, I have been to a few funerals to support friends.

I would go if you can.

You won't regret going and it will be a huge support for your friend. And a very kind thing to do.

in these instances i tend to go for the mass and not the cemetery. Def go and support your friend if you can. she wouldn't have sent the details if she didn't want you to go.

Go and support your friend. It will mean everything to her.

Yes

Yes - I would go. I didn't go to a close friend's fathers funeral a long time ago because I wasn't sure whether it would be appropriate and have always regretted it - everyone else close to my friend had made the effort. Your friend wouldn't have sent out the details if she didn't want people to attend and I'm sure she would appreciate it if you went.

When my DH's mum died 10 years ago quite traumatically, DH was really appreciative that so many of his friends turned up for support, even when they hadn't known his mum. Although now I think of it, the funeral was in Ireland and the friends turned up for the removal but not the funeral itself the day after.

Ah, thanks so much girls. You've really clarified my thoughts.

I think you're all right, after all, it's to support my friend during this awful time, regardless of my closeness or otherwise to her mum.

Thank you.

Quick update . . . I went to the funeral this morning, it was very sad, but great too in a way. I was glad I was there and I think my friend was too.

I has made me feel very grateful that I have my own parents in good health and that it is important to have a bloody good time whilst were here as it goes all too quickly.

Thanks again everyone.