Right or wrong to

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send a gift to my mum's bf who is my bf mother. She had cancer 13 yrs ago came throu treatment etc got all clear was checked every year, On sat she had a fit and was rushed to hosp today they found a tumour on her brain, all v upset etc no visitors same as when ill yrs ago. That time I used to send flowers or silly gifts cards etc. I have loads of pics from last day we met up last wed for a meal and have put together a collage [before I knew she was ill] DP said no to posting it [no flowers in hosp so I thought the pics and something else [ideas would be good plse] would be nice? Am devestaded she was really the Aunt I never had Text my friend to say available to take her dc anytime or those of her brother. WWUD send or not send the pics

i think it's a lovely idea. why does your DP say you shouldn't?

In his mind no visitors means no contact while in my mind it means no visiting but giving moral support and being there at a distance but he has me doubting myself

Also need to shamelessly ask what will i send besides pics, no flowers, no dairy so no choc any ideas will be welcome please am still in shock need some different/ unusual gift ideas Tks in advance also as she lives in Kent I need to be able to post some of the gifts

Also need to shamelessly ask what will i send besides pics, no flowers, no dairy so no choc any ideas will be welcome please am still in shock need some different/ unusual gift ideas Tks in advance also as she lives in Kent I need to be able to post some of the gifts

What about a nice body lotion or a novel if you know her tastes.

Do I understand that you are too far to visit?

Also write a short note saying you are thinking of her and would love to do anything to help. The picture collage sounds lovely.

No would travel any day [only about 2 hrs away] for her but she wants time without visitors she is v private and wants to be alone but with minimal contact ie post ph etc her inlaws can be overwhelming and ott gloom and doom, so feels it is easier to say no visitors [she wanted same the last time. I just want her to have something special every few days iykwim. After 14yrs since she last started treatment she still remembers and appreciated the indirect contact so feel I want to do the same again for her as illness can be so isolating and lonely

No would travel any day [only about 2 hrs away] for her but she wants time without visitors she is v private and wants to be alone but with minimal contact ie post ph etc her inlaws can be overwhelming and ott gloom and doom, so feels it is easier to say no visitors [she wanted same the last time. I just want her to have something special every few days iykwim. After 14yrs since she last started treatment she still remembers and appreciated the indirect contact so feel I want to do the same again for her as illness can be so isolating and lonely

Could you send her a cheap MP3 player with an audiobook or some music she likes?

GRR wHAT AM i DOING double post am sorry

Obv. if like my mother it would be useless...technophile she is not

Oooh, or some comedy (Hancock's half hour, monty python, Mighty Boosch??!)

Full age range there ;)

i think no visitors is very different to no contact.

if she doesn't want to open it she won't.

LadyGooGoo fab idea tks never even thought of that, I even have a spare laptop [mine broke bought a new one needed it for college then got old 1 repaired] for DVD'S You are Genius, And with Whyme2's idea of body lotion could do a nice basket Thks cannot even think straight at the minute

Thks thisisyesterday I am glad you agree I feel post/ baskets etc can be left till she feels ready and used or dumped as she wants or others can deal with it.
We opened a bottle Champagne last week and drank to her health so this is really shitty turn of events