This is 'What Do You Do?' rather than what would you do.
With every birthday, my eldest has a list a mile long of things she would like / things she desparately 'needs' / things I know she'd love.
Meanwhile, second-born doesn't really need or want for anything as there is a house full of age-appropriate toys that belonged to eldest, that he now loves to play with.
Both birthdays are coming up.
It seems so silly to be struggling to try and come up with things to buy for second-born.
We're not rolling in money (who is?) and while I'll happily buy things for eldest because I know she will appreciate and enjoy them, I struggle to spend money on things just for the sake of it.
BUT... but... I do very much care about both children having the same amount of fuss about their birthdays. Youngest wouldn't really notice yet, but eldest needs to recieve a clear message that both birthdays are equally important.
What do you do?