Teacher "grabbing" child at nursery school

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My three-year-old little boy has just asked me why one of the teachers at nursery school grabbed him the other day. He told me that he was holding onto one of his friends (a little girl) because he wanted her to stay in the hallway with him and a teacher (not his usual one) grabbed him and pulled him away. He says that he wasn't hurting the little girl at all (I believe him as I've never seen that behaviour from him and he's not the sort of child who generally roughhouses except a little bit with his brother).

I think my options are: say nothing; ask the head of early years what their policy is about physical contact with the children then explain that the incident may have happened but the details aren't clear; or ask the head of early years to investigate what happened.

I don't want to make a fuss, but at the same time I do feel that if a teacher has done something to make him uncomfortable then I have a duty as his mother to support him.

Children sometimes misinterpret what constitutes grabbing. Ds is always accusing me of pushing him when I have just placed my hands on his shoulders and gently guided him. It may have been the case that the teacher was just gently guiding him out of the way.

I think you're right that he could have misinterpretted, otherwise I'd be straight on the phone demanding that the teacher be investigated, but it's quite possible that his version is correct.

He told me about it in exactly the same way (a bit shy, saying he didn't want to talk about it, looking for reassurance) as when he said that his Grandpa smacked him a few months ago. I gave my dad the benefit of the doubt and didn't accuse him directly but it transpire that my little boy had in fact been giving an accurate account of events.