Wedding and stag do dilemna....

[hormonalmum]

Good friend of dh is getting married in Ireland in September - the day the dd returns to school and goes into year 1.
Originally, we were all going to go for a week and turn it into our family holiday.
However, as the time is coming closer, I am reluctant to commit due to lots of reasons:

Dd will miss school
DC3 due in May, so we will need to take all the associated things.
Costs (usual wedding things - hotels, presents, travel, plus passport for 2 of our 3 children and one for Dh)

Originally, I suggested dh goes alone due to our current circumstances. Dh was not keen on the idea but did think it would be the best compromise as the groom is a good friend of dh.
Now the stag do has been announced (Prague or Amsterdam - tbc) I think dh should go to that but I am not overly keen on that idea given the location!

I do feel guilty about my feelings about this wedding. So, fellow mn'ers, WWYD?

OOh, tricky!

REALLY don't think it's good to keep dd off for first week back.

You've got a great excuse with a little baby.

Let him go to the stag - why not? What do you think he's going to get up to there he couldn't do in Newcastle, Manchester or London.

I too would send dh to wedding alone
it's his call whether he goes on the stag imo but I would make him (not the family) pay for it iyswim. Unless it clashes with your due date, obv.

I would let dh go to the stag do if he wants to and can afford it. A stag do away and a wedding means that it could get quite pricey. Bit selfish of the groom to have both the wedding and the stag do outside of the UK.

Check with school in case first day of term is INSET day.

Do the DC need passports?

Thanks for your feedback.

Dd has an inset day the day before the wedding.

I am pretty sure dc need passports or at least some kind of photo ID. (other than a passport, I do not know what they would accept)

Dh has no money of his "own" - we have family money iykwim. All goes in one pot.

Dc3 would be around 10-12 weeks when the stag do is scheduled.

The destination of the stag do maybe irrelevant and yes, any of them could do anything - not that I hope dh would but the groom and his best friend are not known for their moral upstanding behaviour. iykwim.

Dh is leaning towards going to the wedding alone and not the stag do. But I have said, we do need to go away as a family at some point.
I think this is the best solution. thanks for input

DC now need their own passports from birth. Had to get my 6 month old DS one in the summer. He looked like Curtis Warren's youngest henchman in the photo, bless him!