Would you confront this midwife????

[mosschops30]

Some of you will know the story, but I had a traumatic 3rd birth, followed by a burst abdomen followed by another opening of the wound cause by infection.

During my time in hospital and other visits since then I have become well know to most staff and bought presents for those midwives who looked after me the most and had a big input into my care.

However last week it came to light that I had MRSA. However the midwife practitioner I asked (and saw regularly) about the swab had told me it was fine, despite me having MRSA

I am desparate to know why she told me it was clear, whether she just didnt look, or whether she made a mistake etc.

I dont want her to think I am being funny about it, despite the fact that I am angry about what happened, but I would like to put my mind at rest and I think knowing this would help.

WWYD?

Ask and confront are very different

You ahve every right to ask, I dought she will want to discuss it as it could leave her open to displinary action. I suggest you go formal to start with.

but I adored this midwife which is why I dont want to involve her in my formal complaints to the hospital. She was always professional and would often just hug me and bring me a cuppa before fiddling with my bits.

Thats why i want to ask her

I would ask her. Sometimes they get an initial result through from a swab saying it looks ok - nothing grown yet - but when the final results come through it shows an infection. It might be a simple mistake on her part. If you would feel better knowing what happenned and you feel you could ask her, then i would go ahead and do that.

No matter how much you like her, or how much she may like you, this i her job. A complaint will involve everyone involved in the process/your care and that will include her. No matter how much you get on and appriacate hat she did why would she put herself on the line like that when she could get inot so much trouble?

because she will be on the line anyway, so whats the difference in her talking to me about it. TBH Im not sure what she can say that will make it ok, but it would be good to know the truth as to why I wasnt told

Because what she says to you you can quote back. her union wouldn't like her talking to you i'm sure.

do you think? I wouldnt mind a patient of mine ringing me and asking a question, unless I had something dreadful to hide, which Im hoping she doesnt.
I hate the thought of involving her in any of my complaints, she is a senior consultant midwife and was utterly professional and I was shocked when I found out I had an infection because she had told me I hadmt

Of course there is no harm in asking her, just think that sometimes people go into self protection mode.