Would you travel 300 miles to attend a funeral of a relative you hadn't seen for 12 years?

[pinksancerre]

That's it really...
Its my husbands nan. Last time he saw her was at his dad's funeral 12 years ago and he hasn't really had much of a relationship with her (only grandson and she didn't like boys!) His sisters are going but they live locally. His mum says don't worry about it but I sense an undertone from her...

I just have a niggle that he should go, he will be the only grandchild who doesn't but then again he is the only one who doesn't live within 5 miles..

Was she his mum's mother? If so I would say he definitely ought to go.

Yes, mums mum.

Yes.

In some cases to make sure that they were dead.

Georgimama

It's a shame when families often only seem to get together for funerals.
But if you don't even go to the funeral? That could be taken as quite a statement, unless there's a genuine reason for not being able to make it.

It would be good to be there for his mum. Would the journey be really inconvenient?

In this circumstance, if i possibly could, then i definitely would go.

I'd go.

Your DH's mother has lost her own mother so she needs her children there to support her.

I presume that when MIL gave birth to DH, nan was there giving support and I'm sure she did love and adore DH as a baby.

I would, and have. Funerals are for the living, it would be nice for his mum to have the support of all of her children.

Thanks for the replies. His mum didn't have a great relationship with her, she didn't like dh's dad. The funeral is tomorrow morning, and he couldn't go up tonight because it is dd's birthday today. We have organised flowers with other grandchildren. My dh is stubborn principled and feels it is hypocritical as he didn't really even know her. He went to my grandparents funerals because he had a relationship with them