please help, at major crossroads and can't decide

[MsIndecision]

I have suffered self esteem issues ever since giving up full time work and having ds.

I currently work part time in a basic admin role, and feel demeaned at times, although the work is ok, and people are OK. But the pay is low and I often miss my old job, which was well paid and utilised skills I had built up a specialism in over a long time.

I have an interview this week for a return to a similar job to what I used to do. I feel I have a good chance of getting the job.

Ironically I feel have just started feeling settled where I am now - I guess I have accepted the change in my life / work. It allows me free time to be with ds and do voluntary work which I get a lot of enjoyment from. It is less stressful - although I occasionally feel frustrated and miss the money I could be earning. DH is in an insecure job, zero hours contract. We are managing to make ends meet, although I worry about the money situation.

So, what would you do:

(a) stay with the part time job with more relaxed life style and accept niggles about 'I could do better' both in terms of challenging work and money;

or

(b) go for the full time return to previous post with less free time, more money

I should add I used to get very stressed in old job and suffered from depression, this has been better since working part time. It's just the self esteem issue which keeps niggling away at me.

Anyone?

I think that you should go with option b, as it seems that you have low self esteem, and if your doing a job that you enjoy and excel at, it will help you very much.

You can also get the new job and ask for flexible workin, or working from home, which might help the stress and give you more time with your ds. HTH

I think you should go for the job.

A good interview will be exciting and will boost your self-esteem. It will also give you a chance to suss out if you're comfortable stepping outside your comfort one a bit.

If they offer you the job and you don't want it then you can always turn it down.

If you do want it then well done you!! But remember you're not signing a life-time contract- you can always quit and look for p/t again if it gets too much.

Anyway, taking a chance ha got to be better than staying in a job which makes you feel demeaned...? (Even if it IS only occasional)

If you have low self-esteem MsI, why not spend some time looking at what it is you're not happy about? eg, is it your physical appearance, your career, your assertiveness skills, are you 'just a mum', etc Once you identify this issue then maybe you should throw yourself into a new study course or hobby, something which will help you to feel more complete.

Good luck!! And please do bear in mnind that the personality can change dramatically in a short-time but because we cannot see it, we may not always realise we have changed until we are tested

Go for the job. If you do get it then you have the option of turning it down. If you don't go for it you don't actually have the choice to turn it down.

If in doubt flip a coin. If you find yourself wishing it was the best of three then you know deep down the answer you were really hoping for.

It's only when your waiting for that call after the interview that you know if you want the job ime