I am too hot at night, Dh is too cold - need a solution

[Alicetheinvisible]

Before i end up on the sofa!

I am 11weeks pregnant and i am struggling to sleep at night, mainly because i am feeling hot and sweaty (nice) and i sleep much better with the window open. DH refuses to wear pyjamas but can't sleep with the window open because he gets too cold.

Last night i opened the window (about 6inches) and slept really well til 2.30am when DH got up and shut the window, after that i felt hot and uncomfortable and didn't sleep very well at all.

I really need a solution to this, it is driving me insane

Separate duvets

Failing that separate bedrooms!

Your DH is being rather unreasonable refusing to wear PJs yet insisting on a closed window when you are pregnant and overheating.

Refuses to wear pyjamas! they don't have to be old man in hospital ones. Tell him to cop on or let him go to the sofa. You're pregnant, it's not that much of a sacrifice for him.

I'm no longer preg, but have the same problem with DP who seals the bedroom up and then burrows under a mountain of bedclothes - he does wear PJs too though . Currently am BF DS at night, and we mainly co-sleep, so I have pretty much given up on bedding altogether. I wear bedsocks, fleecy PJs and an extra fleece shirt. I only bother pulling the duvet over my legs if it gets particularly chilly. DS sleeps next to me in his gro-bag.

I have been thinking about investing in one of those duvets with different togs in each half. I did suggest seperate duvets to DP but he reckoned it was tantamount to divorce (or would be if we were married )

He can wear pyjamas or have a separate duvet for a few months just while you are PG, surely? What is it he doesn't like about pyjamas?

He likes to sleep in the nude (we both do, but i am happy to wear pjs if i am cold)

Makes it worse that we have to have our bedroom door shut or the cat attacks us

I like to have a breeze in the bedroom about 360 days of the year.

Lets swap husbands. Me and Dh are the opposite so it should work and I can then have 25 blankets on.

We have the opposite problem. DH just sleeps half out of the duvet!

Could you do that too?

get an electric blanket for his half of the bed.

I like to be snuggled up but i like there to be 'fresh' air in the room, stops me getting all sweaty and i don't have a sore throat in the morning.

Fruitshoot husband swap hey

We have this all year round, pg or otherwise. Two duvets is the way to go. We have two thin full size duvets on the bed. I hog most of the top one, DH is happy with just the bottom one over him.

DH and I have always had two single duvets. It started when we moved in together as penniless students and we just liked it. In the winter DH has 10 or 13 tog and I have a 7 tog and in the summer DH will have a 7 tog and I'll have a 4 tog. In the height of summer DH uses a 4 tog and I don't use anything. It would be a pain in the neck to try and sort our our relative togs with a king size duvet.

I don't see why your DP thinks it would be so bad, you can still snuggle just as easily as if you have one large duvet because the single ones overlap.

If he really doesn't want to try singles then why not use a low tog double duvet but put a single duvet on top of the double (inside the cover) on his side.

Hmm...Thinking i might dig out a blanket for him to put over his side and see if that works.