DD wants to go.....

[GypsyMoth]

on holiday this summer with her friend and her parents,abroad. she's 15,will have just done her gcse's.

i had planned to take us all away for a week ,this summer,can only afford uk though. depending on dates she wants to go on both hols.

i can't really afford it,but would find the money somehow,friends parents have offered to go halves which i find a bit cringy.

the other dc will be jealous,tho i can justify it as she's the eldest so will just say its a end of gcse present type thing,but there will be some resentment to live with from her sister who is 13. so life might be hell!!

i feel this might be the last holiday she has with us. she plans a levels with a part time job before going away to uni....

have no worries about her being safe with this family,they are lovely...

means i will have less money to spend on her 16th this june,i had planned a party which she asked for, and a 'Tiffany' item of jewellery..

last year she went to france,belgium,germany and poland with the school. history trips.

would you let your daughter go?

I would prioritise her holiday with us. As you say, it might be the last one.

I wouldn't put myself out financially so that she could go on holiday with her friend. Fine if I could afford it, but not if it meant the rest of the family suffered.

It is a generous offer on the friend's part, so I would thank them profusely, but reluctantly decline.

I would explain that you have a budget put aside this year for her birthday and present and then let her decide whether she would rather have a smaller party/present and the holiday or whatever balance of the three. Useful budgeting example that is good lesson for girl of her age.

yes,if she were to go then spending money would have to be saved up and budgeted for. she is looking for babysitting jobs to supplement her pocket money.