Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Chat

Join the discussion and chat with other Mumsnetters about everyday life, relationships and parenting.

DD is going to separate secondary to her 2 best friends- friendship is strained and DD is sad and lonely, advise pl

1 reply

kateSM · 11/01/2010 20:23

DD is in yr 6 at primary in. She passed the 11+ test and her 2 best friends didn't. (I hate the 11+ test but thats another thing altogether.)

It was unexpected that at least one of them didn't pass.

As expected the friendship is now a little strained with the other 2 doing more things together and starting to exclude DD.

One of the other 2 is the dominent one of the 3 friends and there is the possability of a little jealosy happening but i don't know.

as this is yr 6 all other friendships have been established and anyway DD just wants to be with her special friends.

Although DD and I know that everything will change come Septemeber and everyone will be making new friends it dosen't help with what to do now.

DD is fine at school but has been up late at night crying a few times

she is starting to get a little testy and moody too (but that could be the beginning of the teens I guess, though I suspect it is a reaction to school stuff.)

What can I do to help her?

thoughts so far

speak to her teacher

speak to the mum of the less dominent friend to say DD is sad at losing her friends to see if the other friend could help her.

DD to write a letter to the less dominent friend saying how sad she is to lose her as a friend.

any advice please

OP posts:
Portofino · 11/01/2010 20:33

This happened to me. I was the only one from my primary to get into the Grammar school. Like you said, once September comes things will be different.

Rather than write letters and make an "issue" of it, couldn't you organise something with all 3 girls. A celebration that they are all growing up. Something they would consider really cool. (I have no idea what is considered cool by 11 yos though). Try and gee on the joint friendship a bit?

New posts on this thread. Refresh page