whats the right thing to do abot clashing kids parties?

[Undercovamutha]

DD has only recently started school so not sure what the right thing to do is re. clashing kids parties.

DD has been invited to 2 parties on the same day. One is at 1-3, and the other at 1.30-4.30.

The first party is for one of the children she plays with regularly (and I know the girls mum) and the other is for a child who I know is in DDs class but she doesn't really talk about her much, and I don't even know what she looks like.

What is the politic thing to do, given that I know DD would want to attend the first party most, but I don't want the child who is having the other party to be disappointed if hardly anyone goes.

Would you try to go both or just the first one?

I'd make sure both mums know about the clash, in case they want to see if they can re-jig. Once the boys' had a party clash and we moved our party time earlier so that those that wanted could go to both.... But made sure that ours was the first, not the last party, so we didn't get hoardes of hyperactive, sugar-high, exhausted children to cope with!

Thanks Roisin. Problem is I don't know who the one mother is so wouldn't be able to spot her in the playground. I guess I could give her a call.

I just hate to think about anyone having a bad birthday just cos of the clash!