Ok well I will try to start from the begining..
Mum and Dad divorced when was about 4years old my sisters only babies.
Growing up my dad re married a friend that my mum introduced him too, she had 3 children also so together their were 6 of us. He fell on his feet and earnt well and got very high up in his career. They went without pretty much anything.
My sisters and I would regularly have to go shopping and watch the others get bits and us go without
Mum however did every job going to look after us.
In time my mum found someone new also and was happy my step father was strict and I became the rebellious teen. (something I very much regret being a step parent myself now) For a period of time I thought the grass would be greener and went to live with my dad, I think I was about 13 at the time?? I hated it and was desperate to be back with my mum, my dad stopped me going with him to pick up my sisters etc
I finally got back to my mum and I then became much hated by my dad (well thats how I felt) and my step mum. roll forward a few years my mum and step dad were happy and engaged nice house etc.
Dad then split with said wife. Got with someone new. Another wealthy family. By this point he had to take early retirement as he had a bad injury whilst at work he became very depressed and eventually that marriage broke down
que wife 3 lovely lady and family but dad made choice to move out of the country
tryiong to shorten this as baby in asrms!
marriage 3 breaks down he calls on me- he's clever he knows that I would do anything for him and 'was' always the closest to him, i rushed out to see him and was pretty much bypassed as he had another bit of stuff
we fell out as he put so much pressure on me ie sell his house here in uk and deal with his tenants ( i was 19) etc etc
i heard that he then moved again to another country with this new woman and few years later dd1 later and getting married in near future i took the plunge to call him
we became close ish again he came to wedding and gave me away
summer last year the latest relationship breaks down badly and lo and behold he calls on me again. despite being in severe debt suffering with depression having 2 dds and my dh being made redundant we had him stay here with us
5 months or so he moved into his own place and got a job (only to top up his generous pension- he was still paying for property etc abroad) he became very much non existant again. then falls on his feet with high flying job again and a new woman
i eventually goto the point where enough was enough and when the emotional blackmail begun on last call i cut him out my life
now sat here with ds1 2.5 wks old in arms and feeluing ver sad
did i do right cutting him out?