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Week in Africa without DH and DS's WWYD?

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BaronessBarbaraKingstanding · 25/11/2009 10:01

Ok, I have an opportunity to go to Afrcia for a week with two frinds who are in a group at church with me, where we raise money and fund a school in the slums in Uganda.

it's a very personal project, entirely funded by our group and run by an amazing ugandan women who we have lots of contact with and who we know and support through someone in our parish meeting her years ago.

I's love to go, itd be an amzing experience and great for our group to see the work we are fund raising for.

BUT it's a week away from the family.

DH is fine, says go, and it's in a half term week so he'll take the week off and do something nice with the boys, but a number of frinds have made the 'oh I couldn't do it. A whole week!' type commnets.

I am woried about missing them, I went away for a weekend last month and nearly came back early I missed them so much, but I think this is a brilliant thing to do, for me.

TBH, I think I am going to go, but I'm intersted WWYD? How many are in the 'I could never do that' camp? How unusual am I?

(my ds's are 9 and 6 BTW)

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MaryBS · 25/11/2009 10:07

I'd go, definitely! Experiences like that don't come along very often, and as your DH is supportive, I'd jump at the chance!

MrsMattie · 25/11/2009 10:10

I'd definitely go.

inveteratenamechanger · 25/11/2009 10:12

Definitely go. DD is not yet 2 and I have travelled for work for almost this long.

mumblechum · 25/11/2009 10:12

I'd definitely go. Have been leaving ds for weekends etc since he was 5 weeks old .

It's not as though you're locking your children in the cellar for a week, they'll have their dad all to themselves and no doubt will have a ball.

alwayslookingforanswers · 25/11/2009 10:13

I'd go!

deepdarkwood · 25/11/2009 10:13

Blimey, I'd do it like a shot and mine are much younger than yours

It's an opportunity that won't come up again, by the sound of it, and will make all your fundraising/contacts so much more meaningful. Your kids will have a ball with your dh, and he'll have a wonderful time with them. Everyone's a winner

TheCrackFox · 25/11/2009 10:13

Just go. Your boys can have some nice bonding time with their Dad.

StripeyKnickersSpottySocks · 25/11/2009 10:14

I went to Uganda for 3 weeks a couple of years ago without DH and DD. wAS Working in a hospital there, great expereince. Go for it.

slim22 · 25/11/2009 10:14

of course go!

CMOTdibbler · 25/11/2009 10:15

I'd go - will be good for your DH and DS's to have some quality time together.

I go away for work quite a bit, and DH really enjoys a weekend of just him and DS

SerenityNowAKABleh · 25/11/2009 10:16

Definitely go. 1) it sets a great example to your DSs (imagine, a DM who goes off to Uganda to help people; awesome) and 2) if you don't take this opportunity, you never know if you'll get the chance again and would regret missing it.

PerArduaAdNauseum · 25/11/2009 10:16

Do it! Kids will be fine, they'll prob be excited for you and enjoy seeing all the photos and so on. And it sets them a great example for later on

PerArduaAdNauseum · 25/11/2009 10:16

Xpost with Serenity - see - we're right

BaronessBarbaraKingstanding · 25/11/2009 10:24

I think I am going to go.

Just wondering how many wouldn't.

I'm sure they'll be along in a minute.

I, strangly, find it hrader to leve mine the older they get. I've become so awre of the time passing and then growing up I just want to cling to every moment with them. Whereas when they were babies it seemed interminable and I would have grabbed any break. I'd have gone to a health spa in switzerland for a week never mind, a slum school in Uganda. Is that odd?

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thatsnotmymonster · 25/11/2009 10:32

I went to Costa Rica last year on the Kenco comp. and my 3 were very small at the time. It was fine- there has been no damage done as far as I can see

Also it was such a different experience and so full on that I didn't get a chance to miss them. I'm sure your trip will be the same.

SerenityNowAKABleh · 25/11/2009 13:25

Yes PerAdua - personally, I thought your post was very wise

notyummy · 25/11/2009 13:28

Ignore your 'friends' who wouldn't go - they are just scared or jealous. It will be a brilliant experience and a great example. Lots of people have to be away from their DCs for much longer than that with no lasting harm done FFS - they are being unbelievably precious.

ln1981 · 03/12/2009 11:18

definately go!! i went away for 2weeks last year on my own, and it was nice to recharge and do something that i wanted for a change.
and if your dh is happy for you to go, then its a no brainer as far as i can see. it might even be nice for your kids to see a different face every day and do things that they might not get to do with you. evryones a winner!

ajandjjmum · 03/12/2009 11:36

Know what you mean about not wanted to travel without them as they get older - you can enjoy more together. But, there'll be lots of time for that.
Your kids will gain more from having a mum with a mind and life of her own, that someone missing out on opportunities.

justaboutisfatandtired · 03/12/2009 11:37

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LynetteScavo · 03/12/2009 11:38

Your DS's are 9 and 6 so not babies!

It's only a week.


2babyblues · 03/12/2009 11:41

GO - you will appeciate them more when you get back and vice versa!

jamaisjedors · 03/12/2009 11:43


If you are busy it will be fine.

I went away for a week last year and really needed the break, but when I went this year I was a bit keener to get home, my children are older now and I need less of a break (like you said).

Once you get there, for a project like that, you couldn't possibly regret it.

It will be great for your DH too - it works miracles on DH's having to do it all for a week.

Boys2mam · 04/12/2009 23:13

I would say go - say Thanks to your DH for his support and remember the fantastic example to your DC, who to me are old enough to appreciate the seemingly important cause you are going to support.

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