DD's want to go to a dance class, I don't want to take them...

[FlamingoBingo]

Ok, a few months ago I encouraged my two oldest DDs to join a dance class that some of their friends went to. They are home educated and I was trying to find a way that they would be happy going to a dance class (something they wanted to do) but to be left there and to actually join in IYSWIM. SO this seemed a good option as some of their friends were there.

BUT.......it takes 1/2hr to get there and involves me and the younger two DDs going to wait with the other parents in a local pub. That's really lovely in the summer (we have to sit outside because of the children) but really crappy and miserable in the winter.

I really, really just want to spend my evenings cosying up at home now it's winter and just feel so reluctant to take them all out so late in the evening; but they really, really love this class - they love the girls who run it, enjoy doing it with their friends.

Whenever I think of it like that, I know I need to take them, but when I think of it like me and DD3 and DD4 sitting outside a pub in the cold and dark for 45 minutes, after having driven 1/2hr and then having to drive 1/2hr back, I just don't want to go.

WWYD? Just tell them that I'm not going to take them anymore and that I'm really sorry? Or be a 'good' mummy and keep taking them even though I'm fed up with it?

(DD3 and DD4 don't mind it btw, otherwise I really would say 'no').

can't you sit in teh pub?

It's your job though, unpaid taxiing at all hours, didn't you know?

I just used to sit in the car with the younger ones with plenty for them to do and a book for me. Isn't there an ante-room at the dance place you could wait in and they could play in?

I think when they love it, and you pushed them to do it in the first place, you really ought to stick it out if at all possible. Is there really nowhere else you could wait with the smaller ones?

Is there another parent who could bring them home or take them?
I am in a simiar situation. DD1 and DD2 want to go to Rainbows. Around 20 minute walk each way (I don't drive) in the pitch black and cold.
Luckily have a friend who's DD also goes and we go back to her house during Rainbows. Otherwise i would have to waste an hour somewhere or walk home, sit down for 5 mins then go back out!

can you organise a lift share with another parent - you take and they bring them back - or viceversa?

or just go from March - October?

or find a more convenient alternative?

Thank you all.

You're all right - of course I should take them and I did. We found a pub that would let us sit inside with the children and I have plans for the next few months of dance classes.

Well done .
I took DD's too and took the dog on a nice walk with friend and her dog. Really enjoyed it.