I'm being asked to babysit while friends go out?

[Propeller]

I have just recieved a text from a friend asking me to babysit her kids so she & her DH can go out with mutual friends who also invited me & DH - I wanted to go, but dont have a baby sitter....how would you respond?

[FabBakerGirlIsSURVIVED]

Does she know you were originally invited?

TBH I think it is irrelevant. You either want to babysit or you don't.

[missmapp]

Id text back ' sorry, x asked us aswell and we are still hunting for a babysitter, lets hope we are both succesful, hope to see you soon x ' if she is a friend, she wont mind. Im sure she just didnt realise you had been asked aswell

[Propeller]

Yes she knew - we all received the same text inviting us out.

[Hassled]

Just say sorry, not possible as trying really hard to find a sitter myself. And that maybe if you can't get one, she could sit for your kids rather than vice versa?

What a bloody nerve. The friend, not you.

[missmapp]

okay, then thats a bit weird, just say no, i cant babysit as i am still hoping to find a sitter myself - even if it is at the last minute!

[Rindercella]

Agree with missmapp and Hassled - send text back saying you're trying to find a babysitter for that night yourselves as you want to go out.

I think it's very cowardly of her to text you about this too - why not pick up the 'phone and ask you in person?!

Blooming cheek!

[bibbitybobbityhat]

Sheesh! Are you sure you can't find a sitter?

What a FUCKING cheek. Sorry I know we're supposed to be keeping ourselves in check but this has made my blood BOIL on your behalf .

[traceybath]

Recommend sitters to her and also use them yourselves and then you can all go out.

[Rindercella]

Good recommendation by tracey - we use sitters and they've been great.

[vinblanc]

I would babysit for my friend, no point in both of you being miserable.

Or suggest an alternative party where all six of you can be together.

[vinblanc]

I agree, Cat.

A true friend would put the other one first, (and you can only control your own behaviour, not the other person's before anyone says that the friend should have volunteered to babysit). Therefore, let her go on the evening out with your blessing and look after her kids.

She will do the same for you another time, not that you should keep track.

[Lilyloooohhhh]

I think that's a bit off would have been nicer for her to invite you round to theirs or vice versa if neither of you could get sitters