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Shall I have another baby???

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1legmummy · 27/07/2009 18:44

I am married, two boys one aged 10 and one aged 2 - my Husband is step-dad to the 10 year old.

I am 37 and DS is 47.

First question are we too old?

Now it gets complicated.

I am an amputee with weak arms so receive help with some tasks.

I was due to have my left leg amputated, but have lost 2 stone so that is on hold. I only put on half a stone with each pregnancy.

We have the room

We do not crave a daughter.

If I said yes ds would be happy.

Cant decide - WWYD

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kathyis6incheshigh · 27/07/2009 18:47

Not too old!
You haven't said if you want another baby!

allaboutme · 27/07/2009 18:48

you are not too old
if you want another child and are happy that you could cope then go for it
sounds like it would be hard, but only you can say if it will be manageable or not

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 27/07/2009 18:48

Not too old.

You sound very sensible and practical.

Do you want another baby?

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shootfromthehip · 27/07/2009 18:49

Do you have a really good reason for having another baby- eg you feel like someone is missing from your family?

If not then I wouldn't. If so then go for it. I feel like I am missing someone from my family but have decided to stop at 2 due to unbearable pregnancies. It's not a decision that sits well though.

belgo · 27/07/2009 18:49

You are not too old. Do you really want another baby? If yes, then go for it. Are you concerned about medical problems that a pregnancy may bring?

shootfromthehip · 27/07/2009 18:50

Oh- missed the too old bit- no at 37 you are NOT too old

Original poster
1legmummy · 27/07/2009 18:55

`I would like another --but worried about the age thing

My ds is 47

Not worried about how I will cope- but am Iam worried if it will be selfish, because of the help needed and being older parents

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FabBakerGirlIsBack · 27/07/2009 18:56

at DS.

I hope you mean DH.

Some people are only just starting their families at 37!

Original poster
1legmummy · 27/07/2009 18:58

oooops!!!! yes DH sorry.

What about my DH being 47? - 48 in September

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belgo · 27/07/2009 18:58

No, not being selfish at all. Many parents need help of some sort -eg. childcare so they can go back to work, a cleaner etc. You are certainly not too old, neither is your partner. Your older children would love another sibling. You have the room. Yes you may need more help then other mothers, but really, there is nothing stopping you.

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 27/07/2009 19:02

What about it?

Seriously, if he is healthy and you can afford it, go for it.

pointydog · 27/07/2009 19:08

Is wright/weight gain a big issue for you?

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1legmummy · 27/07/2009 19:12

weight gain is a small issue, but hoping to lose a little more first. I only gained 6lbs last time

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pointydog · 27/07/2009 19:23

I don't see your ages as a problem

kathyis6incheshigh · 27/07/2009 19:32

Decisions to have babies are very often irrational in some way and sometimes they do involve costs to other people as well as the mother, but I don't think that makes it selfish - babies also bring a lot of joy to people besides the mother.

Re your dh's age, 47 is old but not that old. He won't hit 65 until the child leaves school.

I think if you want another baby then go for it.

Original poster
1legmummy · 27/07/2009 19:32

Thank you ladies x x x x

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danthe4th · 27/07/2009 19:33

Go for it, if your health isn't an issue and everyone agrees, enjoy the practising. Lol

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1legmummy · 27/07/2009 19:38
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BrieVanDerKamp · 05/08/2009 10:25

sorry i'm just confussed about the weight issue.

I got the impression that operation was put on hold cos you lost too much weight??

Then you say you're hoping to lose more weight and you only gain 6lb, I'm confussed, but I don't think you're too old, my dh was 40 when we had our youngest, I know that's not quite as old, but then again I'm much younger,31. But if you really want another then you'll make it work, I know of older parents

apotomak · 06/08/2009 20:03

DH's age is not an issue ... why would it be?
My DH turns 50 at the beginning of Sept and I'm also due that month (on the 5th to be exact ... so no party for him but he just may get a birthday surprise if he's unlucky).
If both of you want another baby ... why not?

NKffffffffc16af4a4X1282b287182 · 23/04/2010 16:04

im sooooo broody and not sure whether to have another baby right now or not, advice needed! I already have a 20 month old girl, im in the middle of starting my own business, its very small and il only be working 5 hours per week. so im quite busy with housework, mosque, my daughter, husband and few hours work but im soooooooooooooooooooooooo broody its unbelievable, is this nature's way of telling me to have one right now. realisticly i should wait few months til sorted but i want one NOW! what should i do? What would you do? also, dnt want a huge gap between my kids.

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