I’ve been seeing this guy for a good 6 months +. We operate completely different. I believe his behaviour shows his lack of interest and he says I’m asking for too much and a difficult person. At this point I feel we should have some intention and he’s very like just go with the flow. Messages consistently some times then doesn’t at all. Lucky to get a call or an arrangement to meet up and when we do I will have to ask so “what time can you do” about 5 times. He sees it as difficult but I see it as I have things to do and can’t wait for him to drop a text at a random time requesting to see me. It’s very push and pull. One moment I think it’s casual and I’m like cool who cares and then he will say otherwise and it’s too confusing.
Either way it’s just not going to work as I find the dynamic super strange and a hassle now. Apparently to him I’m his girlfriend, but one we never spoke about it and I disagree against that happening because I’m lucky if I hear from him once in the day let alone get a call. I’ve said to him: let’s drop the act this isn’t a relationship. You’re not consistent with me. And he make me feel bad for seeing him as casual. But what’s the point we hardly speak, meet up and he’s defo not using me for sex and we don’t have it.
He takes it as I’m causing problems for asking how a relationship could possibly look like this and why he would consider me his girlfriend and act like that. To me this has been a very unserious situation but he says otherwise and that he has to some times ignore me because “I ask too many questions” But my questions would be “how come you said you was going to call and didn’t” or meet up and there will be no time set and I can’t get hold of him.
My question is: Am I supposed to have a sit down conversation and end it in person. Even though I don’t know what this situation is?