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Have you had to give up work fir health reasons?

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Greedybilly · 02/09/2026 12:54

I'd be really grateful for people's experiences.
I've been in my current part time job for 4 months. It's not really the job I thought with lots of wfh - which has made it stressful to learn the job.
Mostly though due to Long Covid I am wrecked with exhaustion ever day. My joints hurt, breathing is weird and I have terrible brain fog.
My boss thinks im doing ok but she doesn't know the effort/resting up/medication going into this!
I don't want to be defeated by this illness but most days I end up in tears of exhaustion/frustration.

Shall I give in and quit. It's not helping my health.

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DaiseForDaise · 02/09/2026 12:55

What is your situation financially? How will you support yourself?

aliasfrog · 02/09/2026 12:59

Quit if you can. Keep pushing yourself with LC and you'll potentially end up worse off. Nothing is as important as your health. Good luck

Greedybilly · 02/09/2026 13:05

@aliasfrog- thsnkuou - that's exactly what I would say to someone else!

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Greedybilly · 02/09/2026 13:06

@DaiseForDaise- I'm getting PIP and my partner works. Don't like idea of living off either tbh.

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Greedybilly · 02/09/2026 13:06

Anyone got any lived experience?

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aliasfrog · 02/09/2026 13:08

Sorry op no experience. I still manage to work part time but it is hard. I can't do much outside work but we can't afford for me to quit. I expect we could if we really scrimped but I do like being able to work as it gives me something to do and a sense of purpose. That's something to think of as well, will your mental health be worse not working? I know how hard it is to find part time wfh but if you only work 16h eg, is that doable? But only you know your health, if you think you'll be better off quitting then you should.

frozendaisy · 02/09/2026 13:08

Once you are familiar with job would it work out?

Personally I wouldn’t leave a job right now, especially WFH, if you want to work and have nothing lined up.

PinkWaffleMaker · 02/09/2026 13:10

Do you have any skills OP that would allow you to go self employed?

I went self employed so I could work part time and still do the work I wanted to do around my young children.

But it really came into its own when I got very ill during pregnancy. Financially it was a hard time but it allows me to work very flexibly in a way that suits my needs and I didn’t have to answer or explain it to a boss. Though I have to manage my clients expectations I baisically do as much or as little as I want. When things are good I can make a lot of money and if my health doesn’t allow I can listen to my body and spend days/weeks in bed.

dizzydizzydizzy · 02/09/2026 13:17

Yes. I have ME/CFS, which is much the same (or possibly even exactly the same) as long covid. I was working part time in an extremely easy job but keep on having to go off sick. I had 7 months off in 2024 and after I had been off for 3 months in 2025, my employer said I was too ill to work. I have stopped deteriorating since stopping work.

I now live on UC, LWRCA and PIP. I live in a rented flat and because it is absolutely minute (studio flat, single bed, no space for a sofa), the rent contribution I get feom UC covers all the rent. If I lived in a small 1-bedroom flat, I’d only have about 2/3 of the rent covered and would be short of cash.

I would love to go back to work but I am not well enough and do not want to end up bed-bound, which I think is what would happen if I did go back.

Greedybilly · 02/09/2026 13:29

Thanks for all comments - no nothing lined up apart from possibly a stress related heart attack.
So many days I literally have to lie down after an hour on the computer and my head is pounding and I just cry with feeling so bloody ill. I can't physically do.it

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Greedybilly · 02/09/2026 13:31

@dizzydizzydizzy- I suspect I would feel a bit better/stop deteriorating if I stopped work. I just can't bear for this damn illness to take yet another thing from me. Glad uve got ur rent covered- one less worry.

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Greedybilly · 02/09/2026 13:33

@PinkWaffleMaker- can I ask what u do? Uour situation sounds ideal. I don't really have any skills that I cd use for self employment I.e tutoring or cleaning or whatever sadly

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fumingrightnow1 · 02/09/2026 13:39

I had to reduce my hours to part time after getting seriously ill from covid

Pureclass · 02/09/2026 13:59

I did.
I had to give up work back in 2010, so quite a long time ago. I have autoimmune disease which haven't ever stabilised.

At the time it was incredibly difficult as we had no benefits coming in at all.
Money was extremely tight.

First I got high rate PIP both elements
Then contributory ESA - in the support group, meaning they felt I would never return to work.

Then just recently UC - that has made a big difference to just surviving and now having a bit more money to be able to have some money to use for things which will help me manage my disability.

We have a mortgaged house, I was the higher earner. My DH has retrained to get a higher paid job as we could not have afforded it without him doing this.

My illnesses have gotten worse since 2010 and there is no way I can return to work. I am not capable of doing the job I trained hard for, and I cant see me being able to do any job now. My health is unstable and I spend a lot of time in hospital- so I cant see what I could do or who would employ me.

It is lonely, friendships do fall off and its difficult not seeing people every day and not being in a steady routine isn't good for mental health- though neither is burning out from pain and exhaustion trying to balance it all.

I do like to try and keep in contact with those who have stuck by me as much as possible. I try to keep to a good routine as much as possible. Have a healthy attitude to Internet and doomscrolling etc. Keep up with some easier hobbies.
Get dressed up even if I dont go anywhere to make an effort for myself.
Keep up with interests, keep my world as big as it can be.

Many people think PIP/disability benefits only should be used for treatments or therapies. I believe my health may have been better if I could have used them for this.

But I could no longer work. I simply was not well enough. So for years it went towards household bills. Now we are in a better position finally with UC changes and DH earning a bit more. I can now have private physio, a bi-monthly massage and pay for some private medical appointments. These have helped enormously.

But giving up work, even though it lead to years on the breadline was the only thing I could do at the time as my health completely failed me and I had no way to continue.

Im sorry this has happened to you. I dont know much about long covid. Is it something that Perhaps could go into remission if you take the time now to recover properly?
Thinking of a friend who had severe ME. She took 3 years off and really prioritised herself. 20 years later she is now a senior midwife and hasnt had another flare. She and i think if she had pushed on she would never have recovered.

Wishing you all the best.
In the first instance please apply for any and all benefits you are entitled to.

PinkWaffleMaker · 02/09/2026 14:18

Greedybilly · 02/09/2026 13:33

@PinkWaffleMaker- can I ask what u do? Uour situation sounds ideal. I don't really have any skills that I cd use for self employment I.e tutoring or cleaning or whatever sadly

I’m an Architect with a very niche specialism.

Greenseacat · 02/09/2026 14:22

I had to quit my job last year due to a combination of health issues (I have long term health conditions) and the fact that my employer was not supportive at all and failed to agree long term reasonable adjustments.

They also expected me to regularly commute (I lived 2.5 hours from the office each way) although when I took the job I was told at the interview that I would only need to attend departmental meetings every 3 months. I was also bullied and ostracised.

I really needed to leave because I kept ending up in front of my GP as my mental health was in the gutter and my body was knackered. The last straw was when I developed shingles because I was so run down!

I had to make a complaint for disability discrimination and they agreed on a financial settlement.

Since then I have done freelance contracts which allowed me to mostly work from home and I am job hunting now for a permanent part-time role as my health has stabilised. I get PIP as well.

It is not easy and being without a permanent job is scary but frankly health has to be the priority.

CoastalCalm · 02/09/2026 14:32

Going through it at the moment , on long term sick and leaving via voluntary exit at end of December then retiring at 54

Greedybilly · 02/09/2026 15:45

@Pureclassi totally recognise what you've written. Sorry you've gone through this but thanks for replying

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Greedybilly · 02/09/2026 15:47

@Greenseacat- jeez sounds awful. Yes it's very scarey not to have a job or in my case a purpose in life. My boss is being v supportive etc ( uours sounded awful) but only been there 4 months so not even passed probation yet.

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m030978 · 02/09/2026 16:53

Reading with interest. My health has been declining since a virus 10 years ago ended with a fibromyalgia diagnosis. (though I do wonder just how much was also perimenopause, which started at about the same time!!)

The job I'm in is only 15 hours a week and i'm struggling. I've had a really bad couple of weeks off where my body has just been agony even without being at work.

I'm looking for something else but who would take on this wreck?

Gettingbysomehow · 02/09/2026 16:57

I need to give up work. Im struggling to keep going and have to take tramadol everyday but I have two years mortgage left due to my divorce which was a bolt out of the blue. He has ruined my retirement, he said he couldnt be arsed to "look after a cripple". Bloody cheek I did everything in the house and garden.
I have two years to go. Ill get there if it kills me.

PearlsTeapot · 02/09/2026 17:03

I did. I have mental health problems which resulted in hospital stays and it all got too much. DW supported me financially (along with PIP) and without that I couldn't have coped. I would do the same for her, which I remind myself of all the time. After a year out of work I've just started a new job, only 12 hours a week and it's going well. My life looks nothing like what it did 5 years ago when I was thriving in my career and that's been hard to accept, but I feel grateful every day to have DW who is happy supporting me and my health.

Greedybilly · 02/09/2026 18:20

Awww @PearlsTeapot- that's heartening to read!

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Greedybilly · 02/09/2026 18:21

@Gettingbysomehow- blimey tramadol is strong stuff . Hats off to you - sorry ur ex was such a dick. Maybe I just need stronger pain killers to get thru the day.x

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Greedybilly · 02/09/2026 18:23

@m030978- sorry to hear you're struggling too.
Yes it's not a great selling point for a potential employer is it 🤣

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