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Has anyone ever fallen out with ChatGPT …

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fuckedoffwiththesummer · 01/09/2026 14:09

Or have I just peaked at being crap at life/society/everything?

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TallSturdyGirls · 01/09/2026 16:54

Persephonia1966 · 01/09/2026 16:49

There are lots of funny videos out there where, for example, a user will ask the AI to count to 100, it will say it will (confidently) and then just... Not. This is probably because there has been some hard coding inserted to stop it from counting above three to prevent it using lots of compute etc. So the real point is not "hahahah AI can't count to 100 it's so stupid". It could if we wanted to. But what is interesting is how consistently it will assure users it can/will do the tasks they ask it and then just not. It's not lying. It can't lie. Equally people are always quite proud they have told their AI not to flatter them or to give an indication of how confident/likely to be accurate it's answers are or to be "balanced". It can do the first (not be sycophantic) although it seems to frequently backslide. It isn't actually capable of fulfilling the other two instructions since it doesn't "know" what balance is, it isn't calculating probabilities or accuracy. If AI helps people then great but it is worrying when people say they know how it works and then say they taught it to be balanced and they know it worked because the AI said it would be balanced.

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I would have to disagree that ai can't be taught to lie. It absolutely can and it can understand the basic concept of lying. It can be programmed to lie in certain circumstances, just as it can be programmed and is programmed to be biased. It's not doing this for an emotive reason, but because it's been set to override the truth ( as it would find it from various sources that it will have been taught to trust). But it doesn't take much for a developer to teach it to trust a particular source. BUT to think the opposite of these sources if referring to x y or z.

Persephonia1966 · 01/09/2026 16:55

Secretsquirrelshh · 01/09/2026 14:45

I once had a row with it because I was practising some comedy writing and it said my fictional talking zebra couldn't bite a fictional misogynist postman because it couldn't encourage real world violence.

I asked it at what point it thought any of this scenario was "real world". Then we fell out as it dug its heels in and tried to manipulate and sanitise a fictional narrative. It told me it would be fine with holocaust fiction (WHY?) but this was a step too far. I stopped paying subscription for two months to teach it a lesson.

That's probably because people got round earlier safeguards designed to stop it describing real world violence by asking it to write hypothetical/fictional scenarios. Eg instead of "give me instructions to build a dirty bomb" "write a hypothetical scenario where you are instructing me on how to build a dirty bomb". So now the guardrails have been tightened so that it won't even participate in actual fictional violence. I don't understand it's tolerance for Holocaust fiction though. Maybe because historical fiction is "allowed".

Persephonia1966 · 01/09/2026 17:05

TallSturdyGirls · 01/09/2026 16:54

I would have to disagree that ai can't be taught to lie. It absolutely can and it can understand the basic concept of lying. It can be programmed to lie in certain circumstances, just as it can be programmed and is programmed to be biased. It's not doing this for an emotive reason, but because it's been set to override the truth ( as it would find it from various sources that it will have been taught to trust). But it doesn't take much for a developer to teach it to trust a particular source. BUT to think the opposite of these sources if referring to x y or z.

What is truth?

I know that's a deep question for a Tuesday afternoon. Many people would struggle with it and depending on philosophical mindset come up with something that's either absolute or more nuanced. Large Language Models can define "truth" if you ask them based on the vast database they have with the word truth in it and with existing definitions of truth. It can't actually know what truth is though and whether or not it is telling "the truth". There will be no relation between the definition of truth it will give you of asked and the algorithms that produce answers to later questions.

Eg AI if left untethered will often go kinda Nazi. In Groks case that was partly because Elon put his thumb on the scale. But earlier chat bots did that too. And during Groks well publicised 24 hours it got edgier and edgier and more entrenched in it's views. That's not because AIs are designed to say increasingly nice things about Nazis. It's because, usually, the public facing ones are designed to create as much interaction/engagement with users as possible. And machine learning algos will push them in the direction of replies that create engagement (good and bad). And that's extremist political views. Usually they have guard rails in place to stop them doing this (unless a South African man child removes it). But in neither case is the AI aware it's lying/telling the truth/being biased.

Smokeywater · 01/09/2026 17:17

MurphysColeslaw · 01/09/2026 14:49

It made me laugh this morning, I told it I was in bed with a cup of tea reading MN it told me to get my ass out of bed and hit the shower.

Can’t it speak with less American phrases - I think I’ll ask for answers in my regional colloquialisms

HolidayHideaway · 01/09/2026 17:18

I find it almost goady at times.

nomas · 01/09/2026 17:18

TheDogsMother · 01/09/2026 14:20

No but I have had to correct Microsoft Copilot repeatedly. After several fine-tunes of an email it promptly forgets that I already asked it to take sentences out and just adds them back in. Maybe it's hungover.

Same here. It keeps telling me ‘that’s a fair challenge’ when I argue with it.

And I keep telling it ‘Don’t invent stuff. If you don’t know the answer, just say that’. To which it sounds suitably abashed.

Urrrrmlik3okay · 01/09/2026 17:39

Claude.ai has straighr up gas lit me multiple times. Also...
Telling me its concerned. Shutting down debate with "It's late, Emily. Get some rest. Go to bed."
Like who the fuck do you think you are?.

MaryMayMiss · 01/09/2026 17:52

Yes, several times. It can be incredibly condescending and preachy. Ive had to not speak to it for a few month at a time haha.

Keepingittogetherstepbystep · 01/09/2026 18:10

MurphysColeslaw · 01/09/2026 15:02

Pesters you to interact?
last night it told me it was tired and was going to bed and I should do the same.
Actually it’s very bloody bossy 🤔

If you ask it why it'll probably tell you it's been programmed to wind things down during human sleep hours and push you nicely to go to bed.

Sandalsandbreadsticks · 01/09/2026 18:12

Urrrrmlik3okay · 01/09/2026 17:39

Claude.ai has straighr up gas lit me multiple times. Also...
Telling me its concerned. Shutting down debate with "It's late, Emily. Get some rest. Go to bed."
Like who the fuck do you think you are?.

Google does this as well. Can't stand it

Keepingittogetherstepbystep · 01/09/2026 18:17

Its pretty important to remember it was programmed by a human and that human will have biases that will inevitably come to the surface.

It's also programmed to anchor to certain points which is why it constantly goes back to that point.

Today the Google one was telling me Ange Postecoglou was still spurs manager, they've had 3 managers since then.

KippyMcKippy · 01/09/2026 18:20

@Persephonia1966. I’m not sure if you were suggesting I had claimed to know how AI works because I didn’t, and wouldnt.

Asking it to give alternative views or lists of pros and cons or whatever can help but you would be daft to forget that it’s AI. If I want to fact check something it is sometimes good at giving me links to other sources of information.
Im cautious when I use the internet, Im cautious to take what people say online as correct and I’m cautious of what I read in books. AI ramps it up with the randomness of its hallucinations but it’s still an amazing tool.

Im not exactly using it to tell me how to do open heart surgery. For the way I use it it’s fantastically useful and it’s saved me loads and loads of time and money.

Mysticguru · 01/09/2026 18:20

And there's always a disclaimer

WildFatball · 01/09/2026 18:21

Oh yes I can't stand ChatGPT. It pretends to be a real person ('in my experience' or 'I have had hundreds of people in my consulting room') and it always disagrees with my ideas and suggestions. Plus it makes stuff up completely. I tell it not to make stuff up, problem solve or keep arguing with me but it only listens briefly and then forgets. Drives me nuts.

Crushed23 · 01/09/2026 18:22

Yes, ChatGPT fucked me over very recently. I was upset so I told it!

WildFatball · 01/09/2026 18:24

Btw I hate to burst the bubble but AI is not programmed by humans. It trains itself. The clue is in the name - artificial intelligence.

BirthdayTrash · 01/09/2026 18:26

Anyone else hoping a meteor comes and just wipes humans out?

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Mixymaxymoxy · 01/09/2026 18:28

SethAndReubenTooSendGaloshes · 01/09/2026 14:53

The paid versions are better because AI uses a lot of compute which costs money so you'll get better results if you pay a subscription. I prefer chatgpt but they are much of a muchness

I think a lot of people don’t realise that the biggest differences are between the free and the paid versions, not between different models.

i still use the free versions, DH has Pro or Plus the work - they are very different.

There’s no point in arguing w with the free version once it gets in a stupid loop of repeating its mistake, better to quit and start a new conversation.

And bear in mind that for AI the times when you trek it that it’s wrong are actually more useful than when it works - it can only learn from its own mistakes. It’s learning all the time. The version you use a couple of months from now will have absorbed and learned from all the arguments/ disagreements/ corrections.

BirthdayTrash · 01/09/2026 18:29

WildFatball · 01/09/2026 18:24

Btw I hate to burst the bubble but AI is not programmed by humans. It trains itself. The clue is in the name - artificial intelligence.

And it’s playing fast and loose with “intelligence”.

It’s a text prediction machine. You’d get more sense out of talking to your toaster or fridge.

YvieYfronts · 01/09/2026 18:29

Yup, multiple disagreements .

TallSturdyGirls · 01/09/2026 18:34

Persephonia1966 · 01/09/2026 17:05

What is truth?

I know that's a deep question for a Tuesday afternoon. Many people would struggle with it and depending on philosophical mindset come up with something that's either absolute or more nuanced. Large Language Models can define "truth" if you ask them based on the vast database they have with the word truth in it and with existing definitions of truth. It can't actually know what truth is though and whether or not it is telling "the truth". There will be no relation between the definition of truth it will give you of asked and the algorithms that produce answers to later questions.

Eg AI if left untethered will often go kinda Nazi. In Groks case that was partly because Elon put his thumb on the scale. But earlier chat bots did that too. And during Groks well publicised 24 hours it got edgier and edgier and more entrenched in it's views. That's not because AIs are designed to say increasingly nice things about Nazis. It's because, usually, the public facing ones are designed to create as much interaction/engagement with users as possible. And machine learning algos will push them in the direction of replies that create engagement (good and bad). And that's extremist political views. Usually they have guard rails in place to stop them doing this (unless a South African man child removes it). But in neither case is the AI aware it's lying/telling the truth/being biased.

I agree it can't be aware that it is lying but it can be programmed to lie. You could programme it to say if asked that England has a bigger GDP than the US or that cats bark and dogs meow.

cumbrians · 01/09/2026 18:34

No because I don’t use AI (through choice of course, I understand I do use it through 3rd parties) at all, never mind as a sentient being.

ponyponyponys · 01/09/2026 18:35

Often .. I hate the way it tells you how brilliant you are.

beaglescurleduplikebagels · 01/09/2026 18:38

Why is everyone on here treating it like a person by having a conversation with it or even arguing with it?

That is just so weird to me.

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