Potty training. Give me strength!

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Solidarity needed! This is all in good humour, we will get there in the end!

Littlest DS is almost 3, showing all signs of being more than ready to use the potty or toilet.
I’ve done a lot of toilet training in my time, as a nanny, in nurseries, with my own Dc and weirdly, our old neighbours dd who responded to me but not her dad!

But I may have met my match! This child is ridiculously stubborn and unlike his older siblings, shows absolutely no desire to use the toilet, he’d much sooner have us run round after him with nappies and wipes - he’s told us as much!

The elder siblings have been shipped off for 5 days so my soul focus is on him!

Today is day two.
We’re on every 20 minutes do a potty or toilet visit; usually that’s day one then 30-40 minutes on day two.

We have had no wees or poos on the potty.
We have had many dribbly accidents and wet pants.
We have had a wee in the Lego box. (Done with purpose on DPs watch whilst I nipped to Tesco yesterday!)
We’ve had a massive over night wee in his nappy pants...

Pray for me, manifest good toileting for us all…

They can smell the desperation on you. He's a bit old for the "do it to please mummy" approach, so for my son of a similar age, I'd be taking a "well, life is going to be very boring until you do this" approach.

Tidy away all toys overnight, get yourself a nice book, and explain that today we can't go to play until we've got some wee in the potty.

@TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis I am trying very hard not to give off the desperation vibes but they’re very much there - he has his school nursery start in 3 or so weeks (Scotland) and while the nursery will do nappies, I know from previous DC that there’s an air of they’d rather not!

Approaching bedtime in day 2 with nothing to show for myself but another load of wet pants and more damp patches on the carpet than from the last puppy we trained…

Bribery.
Probably frowned upon here but he's old enough for it to work.
My dgs was a little younger ..2.5 and we knew he was fully aware , he just wasn't bothered and liked his nappy. After a few frustrating days, I suggested we offered a really good reward...bought a pack of 30 cheap toy cars (his thing at the time) from Amazon, showed him the pack and simply said, 'when you do your wee in the potty you can choose one' and put them on a shelf, visible but out of reach.
Next day ( I look after him) he was in the garden , no nappy on, potty nearby. He started to wee... then ran to the potty! Chose a car. Next wee...another car.
After a few days we downgraded to a car for a poo and chocolate buttons for a wee. Well worth the bag of cars😆 We kept up the chocolate buttons for a good few weeks until he was reasonably reliable and in pants.
I'm soon approaching the time we will have to start with his little sister...and I suspect the bribe will have to be pretty good as she is VERY strong willed😂
Keep faking the nonchalance!