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My 17 year old struggling to find any work

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Missypuddingchops · 08/07/2026 10:00

So im really at my wits end atm, my dd is 17 and attends college 3 times a week, shes so she has 4 days where she is literally just at home, shes broken up from her 1st at college so now its all week apart from a driving lesson, she needs amd wants a job...not alot to ask but my god its sooo hard. Even for older people its hard but how are our youngsters meant to set themselves up for saving etc? Everywhere is all 'hand your CV in...basically just dumped on a pile with all the rest from 16/17 year olds desperate for work. Shes costing me a fortune! She must've applied for 15 jobs and handed in so many cvs in the last month and NOTHING! Even the supermarkets arent getting back to her...ive even asked in the town I work in...we are both so deflated

OP posts:
Stoicashellusually · 08/07/2026 14:53

Netcurtainnelly · 08/07/2026 14:48

I thought all jobs had to be advertised by law even if you have somebody in mind.

Nope. Only a small number of very specific jobs do, although most will advertise as it's best practice.

RoseField1 · 08/07/2026 14:53

LBFseBrom · 08/07/2026 14:51

I don't remember working at 17. I did have a part time jobs for short periods aged 15-16 but after that school was more serious. I did know some who had long term Saturday jobs (husband did), but most of us didn't work or even think of it. We managed on our pocket money.

My son, back in the 1990s, found a job in a music shop for Saturdays and went in during school holidays but that really suited him (he is a musician), there was no pressure to earn money. The boy next door worked in Halfords but most of his friends didn't have jobs

You're only young once. I get that it is good for youngsters to work up to a point, if they can find something they enjoy, and it does supplement their allowance, but education comes first and, let's face it, once they've left that behind they are at work for a very long time.

Are there any jobs you can give her to earn a bit extra, like gardening or shopping? Even cleaning the car if she can do that properly.

This is a lovely idea, but my DS' idea of appropriate spending money for himself is well above what I have the budget to pay him even if I wanted to. Plus he has a car now and his insurance is £200 a month alone - that's a lot of car cleaning, and I don't want to pay for his car insurance,even via the medium of odd jobs.

HelloCheekyCat · 08/07/2026 14:57

It won't be long before Boots are looking for Christmas temps (!!) if she doesn't find anything in the interim, which could hopefully lead to a permanent job

JustGiveMeReason · 08/07/2026 14:59

AngelsWithSilverWings · 08/07/2026 14:08

My kids must have been very lucky as they have never struggled to find work.

DD got a seasonal zero hour waitressing job when she was 16 but was let go at the end of the last season because the boss only likes to employ under 18s and she was turning 18 during the next summer season.

She got another job in a cafe almost immediately and then 6 months later applied for a job with more hours available. Sadly that place shut down after a couple of months as the owner sold the business but she got another job lined up 2 days later with an events and catering company. She is also still on the books at the cafe and fills in when they need her.

DS did a paper round from 13-16 and then trained as a life guard and did that until he finished his A levels. After his A levels he applied for a 20 hour p/w contract at a supermarket and worked there while he looked for permanent full time work in The City. He is now almost 21 and working full time in underwriting.

It's definitely not as easy as it was when I was their age but it's not been as tough as some of your DC have experienced. We are in the SE so many it's easier here?

Same sorts of experiences with my dc.
The one who is still a student is regularly contacted by people asking her if she will come and do some shifts for them.
All of them had done volunteering as teens though and had picked up skills like being able to talk to people they don't know, as well as coming in to contact with people who then either asked them to work with them or recommended them to other people.
Not just in our City (Midlands) but they all got jobs in their University Towns as well.

DavidStopActingLikeADisgruntledPelican · 08/07/2026 15:00

Agree with other posters about volunteering. My daughter started out at a charity shop when she was 14/15. It was only a few hours on a Saturday afternoon but she gained work experience and showed commitment. Massively helped her get her first paid job when she was 16 (Dominoes- has your daughter tried places like that?).

It is hard though. Supermarket jobs aren’t easy to get, not these days. Lots of hoops to jump through.

HelloCheekyCat · 08/07/2026 15:00

RoseField1 · 08/07/2026 14:53

This is a lovely idea, but my DS' idea of appropriate spending money for himself is well above what I have the budget to pay him even if I wanted to. Plus he has a car now and his insurance is £200 a month alone - that's a lot of car cleaning, and I don't want to pay for his car insurance,even via the medium of odd jobs.

Absolutely, the amount DD waNts to spend on make up and clothes she'll need a job.to pay for it or she'll have to go without unfortunately.
Some on my favourite memories are from work, it was such a good laugh working as a teen in retail and McDonald's that I was the same for DD

Friendlygingercat · 08/07/2026 15:11

Many young people now are getting their first job via contacts. Friends/family who run a business or who work somewhere (like Tesco) where they can put a word in. Is there anyone who will give her a few days work experience to beef up her cv? I did this for two of my great nieces in the past. They helped with back office, order packing and photo shoots. It was only a couple of days but I bigged it up to a week and gave them excellent references. Completely different names so no way to know I was a relative.

Pistachiocake · 08/07/2026 15:15

It won't help, but they all seem to be in the same boat. Only if they know someone do they tend to be lucky. And the time/trouble for applications-one hour form filling for a job pouring coffee!
Poor kids.

Meadowfinch · 08/07/2026 15:17

Pull together a list of every company within a mile of your house. Pubs, shops, cafes, offices etc. split them into roles - pot washer, cleaner, admin, shelf stacker etc and then take in a relevant cv to each reception.

Would she be happy cleaning houses ? Look for local cleaning contractors who might need some holiday relief.

17yo are paid £8/h minimum wage so still less expensive than adults.

If you have your car cleaned regularly, can she take that over for the summer?

PenandPip · 08/07/2026 15:18

Stoicashellusually · 08/07/2026 14:48

At around 4 applications a day they are unlikely to be great applications. It takes a lot of hours to do a really good application.

CV and cover letter are already saved. She is applying for shop work/ cafés etc. I don't quite get how an application would take hours. 😅

Job advertised on employment website, click apply, add cv and cover letter and answer employers questions regarding right to work, hours available, any holidays booked. That's it. Takes three minutes max.

AmazingSummer · 08/07/2026 15:18

Op a lot of it is timing my DD was struggling and applying on line ,loads of local FB posts saying can anyone give my child a job etc.
After a few months she physically went into our local town and was offered a trial at the second place she went into . It was pure lucky timing and its been a great role and good paym she's been there over a year now.
So tell her not to give and maybe go around again physically.

Meadowfinch · 08/07/2026 15:19

My ds has had a job since his 17th birthday but he's planned for it and qualified as a pool lifeguard. Even that took some persistence to find.

It isn't easy. Good luck OP

Stoicashellusually · 08/07/2026 15:24

PenandPip · 08/07/2026 15:18

CV and cover letter are already saved. She is applying for shop work/ cafés etc. I don't quite get how an application would take hours. 😅

Job advertised on employment website, click apply, add cv and cover letter and answer employers questions regarding right to work, hours available, any holidays booked. That's it. Takes three minutes max.

And this is highly likely why they're not getting interviewed. I'm not having a go but it's essential to tailor cover letters and CVs to the org and that's why it takes hours. I've been interviewed for pretty much every job I've ever applied for and also screen applications regularly so I've seen the dos and don'ts.

TerfOnATrain · 08/07/2026 15:25

I agree with volunteering then I would try the independent shops and pubs by calling in.

This is how DD got her first two jobs, washing up in a cafe and then fish and chip shop with restaurant attached. She went in with her CV (which only had a Sunday paper round on it) a bright smile and a friendly demeanour and got picked up for the cafe, she was let go as it closed down not long after, but that experience got her the job in the chippy, then waitressing in the restaurant before moving to a high street retailer which saw her through uni.

I can’t recommend enough starting with volunteering and the worst jobs and then building up.

hahabahbag · 08/07/2026 15:25

Has she tried waitressing? Both our larger restaurants are desperate for staff. Kitchen hand? Try local care homes too, they always need staff if she’s willing to carry on beyond September working some shifts - most places will not be interested in hiring for just 6 weeks

JockTamsonsBairns · 08/07/2026 15:26

LBFseBrom · 08/07/2026 14:51

I don't remember working at 17. I did have a part time jobs for short periods aged 15-16 but after that school was more serious. I did know some who had long term Saturday jobs (husband did), but most of us didn't work or even think of it. We managed on our pocket money.

My son, back in the 1990s, found a job in a music shop for Saturdays and went in during school holidays but that really suited him (he is a musician), there was no pressure to earn money. The boy next door worked in Halfords but most of his friends didn't have jobs

You're only young once. I get that it is good for youngsters to work up to a point, if they can find something they enjoy, and it does supplement their allowance, but education comes first and, let's face it, once they've left that behind they are at work for a very long time.

Are there any jobs you can give her to earn a bit extra, like gardening or shopping? Even cleaning the car if she can do that properly.

That's great if you're able to fund your teens' lifestyle. I can't, therefore they've had to get jobs.
And cleaning my car at, what, £5 a week wouldn't stretch very far.

PenandPip · 08/07/2026 15:26

Stoicashellusually · 08/07/2026 15:24

And this is highly likely why they're not getting interviewed. I'm not having a go but it's essential to tailor cover letters and CVs to the org and that's why it takes hours. I've been interviewed for pretty much every job I've ever applied for and also screen applications regularly so I've seen the dos and don'ts.

You really don't have a clue.

JockTamsonsBairns · 08/07/2026 15:27

hahabahbag · 08/07/2026 15:25

Has she tried waitressing? Both our larger restaurants are desperate for staff. Kitchen hand? Try local care homes too, they always need staff if she’s willing to carry on beyond September working some shifts - most places will not be interested in hiring for just 6 weeks

Domiciliary care will definitely hire for 6 weeks, but it's over 18s.

Stoicashellusually · 08/07/2026 15:28

PenandPip · 08/07/2026 15:26

You really don't have a clue.

My track record, role and experience say otherwise but it's completely up to you what you do.

outdooryone · 08/07/2026 15:31

Having been through this with my three, she has my sympathy. It is a tough effort, and IME so many big businesses are really poor at recruiting.

Mine found it better to speak to friends and family and find jobs they could actually speak to folk about - so many big organisations it is all online applications and AI run tests where you have to "guess what we are thinking when it comes to customer service"... I also think that it is not unusual for the most straightforward and junior of jobs to now expect experience...

I would also ask: what experience does she have already? Mine did paper round at age 13 (got by speaking with school pals), onwards to a few waiting type jobs at 16 (local places where you could speak to manager), then helped run covid test centre (phone call from desperate family friend as they could not recruit others), and finally in to some bigger employer places such as supermarket. The experience they had meant all three of them walked into jobs that pals were applying for with zero work experience.....

wishingonastar101 · 08/07/2026 15:33

I would be going for 15+ applications a day + volunteering.
Charity shops, school, youth / homeless charities, food banks.

AtleastitsnotMonday · 08/07/2026 15:43

Is she applying for cleaning posts? All the teens want to work in shops, bars and restaurants. Fewer people are happy to clean.

Iamblossom · 08/07/2026 15:46

Alot of the kids local to me, including both my sons, worked at a local wedding venue place. Started in kitchens, and cleaning, worked up to silver service and bar work

TwoLeggedGrooveMachine · 08/07/2026 15:49

My DD has been applying for a year and has only had two interviews. She’s tried handing out hard copy CVs but employers don’t want them. She got told off in a high street shop for breaching GDPR for handing out her own CV. She’s done 6 months of two days per week at a charity shop and work shadowing one day a week for a few months, so two solid references. We live in an area that isn’t very affluent so not so many shops. It seems these days that FT staff are expected to cover 24/7 so the old Saturday job does really exist anymore. The only young people I know with PT jobs are ones with connections or the most extremely self confident. DD is making a few quid doing a bit of basic garden tidying for a couple of people.

RoseField1 · 08/07/2026 15:49

Stoicashellusually · 08/07/2026 15:24

And this is highly likely why they're not getting interviewed. I'm not having a go but it's essential to tailor cover letters and CVs to the org and that's why it takes hours. I've been interviewed for pretty much every job I've ever applied for and also screen applications regularly so I've seen the dos and don'ts.

No offence but how old are you? I've also had interviews/offers from the vast majority of jobs I've applied for but when I was applying to retail/hospitality jobs it was the late90s and early 2000s!!

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