Weight loss mess.

[Helpmelooknormal]

Help? Ive changed my user name for this.
Ive lost half my body weight AND Im left with this mess.
Will lifting weights improve this or is it a surgery only job?
How will I ever get a boyfriend looking like this?
This must be a common thing with all the people on GLP-1s. Should I just accept it?

You’re not a mess. What part of your body is that?

It’s really not that bad! You should be proud of weight loss. Find some shape wear if you think you need it. Well done!

Its my tummy.

It really doesn't look that bad!

I think what to do about it might depend on how old you are, if you have kids or are planning to have any etc

Well done on your weight loss !!
your tummy looks fine -
most women don’t like their tummies for various reasons-
that’s why there is such a good market for shape wear underwear / swim wear etc

get yourself some flattering clothes and be proud of yourself -

x

It's just the evidence of how far you've come. Losing half your body weight is an incredible feat. Congratulations on your weight loss!

It is loose skin so exercise won't change it's appearance. If the weight loss is recent, then your skin may tighten a tiny bit, but not significantly. The only option to "fix it" would be surgery.

I've read that it can take some time for your skin to catch up with your weight loss. I don't think it's a mess but sympathise that you're unhappy.

I think being accepting of your body/yourself, generally is the healthiest way but often we're our own worst critic. It looks worse to you than others as it has your focus.

Im not planning on having chdren. Im 50. I look good in clothes because none of this hangs down but swimsuits are out and Id be so embarrassed to let anyone see this. It would take me 5 years to save up for surgery abroad and getting time off work would be hard. Im in a physically demanding job and no way would they let me have 6 weeks off.
I was asked on a date recently and was chatting about weight loss.
He said do you have loose skin and I said yes. He just got up and walked off 😐

I honestly don’t think it looks nearly as bad as you think it does, and that man was an utter knob - the trash took itself out.

what a vile man he was! Sounds like you had a lucky escape. Your tummy looks completely normal! Focus on learning to love yourself x

Well at least you learned early that he’s a shallow twazzock who isn’t worth your time or effort.

im 42, I was obese at age 11 and spent the next 30 years yo-yo’ing between morbidly obese and obese, I also had a baby. I’ll take a pic and post it i a bit, my belly looks like a melted candle, got some lovely bingo wings too. Still a whole heaping load better than being a size 24/26 and wheezing walking up the stairs. It’s like stretch marks, wrinkles and scars, just another part of who you are, what you’ve been through and a part of your overall life story. I occasionally consider a tummy tuck or arm lift but those bits of skin can be easily covered up. I’ve never worn a bikini so I don’t miss it and at the moment I can’t justify the cost or the down time that would be needed for what would be a major surgery as I’d need to do the 360 body lift route.

Contrary to popular opinion finding a boyfriend rarely is based on looks and more on someone you click with. By the time they see your tummy you’ll have reeled them in with the fact you have a laugh together and if he does see your tummy ye will probably be in the dark anyway!!!

Here you go. This is after losing 10 stone, which was just a hair over half my body weight.

omg !!!! What a dick head -
what woman is not going to have loose skin somewhere or plump skin !!!!

dont waste your money on surgery -
spend some on a good therapist who is good with self esteem / body image

• compassion focused therapist maybe ??

No wonder you are having a low confidence moment after what that arsehole did on your date! What an absolute cock!

I honestly don't think it looks bad at all. I wondered if you were very young and then maybe it would be less expected to see someone with a bit of loose skin on their tummy. But by age 50 a lot of people have had babies and weight gains and losses and will have loose skin and stretch marks etc. I do not think it looks very unusual at all.

Mine isn't loose but that is because I haven't lost weight and I could honestly do with losing a bit! Well done to you for your weight loss. That is great and your health is so much more important than a bit of loose skin.

My stomach looks much like @InfoSecInTheCity! I’ve got an overhang from abdominal surgery for cancer too!

I don’t care anymore, I’ve not lost as much as you @Helpmelooknormal but I’ve lost 4 and a half stone. I’ve also reduced my body fat from 42% to 16% and weight train 3 times a week so I’m strong and my posture is much better.

I used to think I had to wear high waisted bikini bottoms due to my stretch marks but I don’t care anymore, I’m proud of my weight loss and no one really cares on holiday.

@Helpmelooknormal the issue with the man you met is his, not yours. You had a lucky escape. Well done on your incredible weight loss💐

Are you sitting down in that photo? I'm fairly sure most people look like that.
Get some tummy control swimsuits and strut your stuff!
In future don't even discuss your body with someone you've only just met!

Loads of people are wobbly with loose skin these days. I honestly wouldn't worry about it. The guy you met was an awful anomaly.

btw I am really saggy, still a size 14 and have a big tummy. I am out in public in a swimsuit 3 times a week. Who the hell cares? I am not judging anyone else and there's all shapes and sizes out.

Yes I think this is the main issue. When he asked that intrusive judgemental question that’s a straight up red card before he even said anything further. I would have told him not to ask rude personal questions and struck him off the list. Value yourself more.

Thats an amazing weight loss.

Lucky escape from that nasty little man.

I have lost nearly six stone and am size 8 now. I do have some saggy skin on tummy and arms, but it definitely has firmed up gradually as the months pass.

I wear tankinis.

Well, he’s no loss is he? Wanker.

I went from 30st to 10st. My husband loves all the parts of me. The loose skin is just a part of my life story.

I think you need to thank the little twat for exposing his nastiness before you waste any more time on him! 👏

I have EDS so I've always felt like I'm wearing a suit of skin a size too big. Add in two kids and my stomach does not look like a supermodel's... Yes, it bothered me when I was younger and I didn't feel attractive but I think that's just a part of age. I love the confidence that comes with being older, knowing that actually very few opinions really matter to you. Logically yes, I know it would be lovely to be taut and toned. On a daily basis I really don't care because a life is made up of so many more important things than a wrinkly stomach.

A few months ago an old school friend sent me a class picture from our teens. I was chatting to him on the phone about it and said I can't understand why I always thought I was so fat when I can see very clearly in the picture that I was nothing of the sort. He was pretty horrified and couldn't believe I'd ever thought I was fat and said he had no idea at the time that I had been worried about that. It hadn't ever occurred to him that I might have thought that and he certainly never thought it about me. The point is that other people just don't see us the way we see ourselves. You're focusing a lot on this particular aspect but most people aren't going to even notice it or give it a second thought even if they do.

Ultimately any man that judges you only on your appearance or any one particular aspect of it is not worth having. Having said that I've never found my loose skin made any difference to how a man feels about me and if it did then that's a great way of weeding out the timewasters. I think you happened to find a rare one but were also lucky to escape so soon.