Weekends feel flat

[Hurtlingbug]

My weekends are feeling really flat at the moment. All week I count down the days and when I arrives I have no energy or motivation to do anything. I don't want to do chores and I don't want to do anything fun. Just sit at home, eat and read (or scroll on my phone). This week I tried doing some fun things in the light evenings which was lovely but I still feel the same on Saturday. Both DC have a club at 11-12:30, so most of the morning feels like chivvying them along to get ready for that even though they say they like it. I don't feel like getting up and showering like the week days, just want a chill breakfast in our pjs. If we plan stuff to do it feels like a lot of pressure and rushing around which we need a break from, but when we plan nothing, then we do nothing and I feel full of anxiety that I should be doing something. I wondered if anyone else has similar weekends and what they've tried to fix it? Or if you are happy with your weekends what do they look like and where do you get the motivation from?

It sounds like you need something to do of an afternoon? Rushing on a weekend morning is no fun but neither is sitting in all day. We generally do a bit of a blitz tidying on a Friday evening so the house is in order and we don’t have to do it on the weekend. If we haven’t got plans then we usually ask the children to pick one thing they’d like to do each and we each choose one. Sometimes that’s going somewhere or sometimes it’s doing something at home, like some sort of craft they want to do that’s a bit more complicated.

Or, you could write down a load of activities that don’t cost a lot or take a lot of planning on slips of paper or lolly pop sticks ans pick one at random when you are at a loose end.

The children are both generally happy at home after their club, but one of them would be happy to go out if offered and other can be left if they really don't want to come. It's more that I have no motivation. We are tending to clean bathrooms and hoover on a Saturday morning/afternoon if we are slow. I'm usually too tired to do this on a Friday night and I can't find another time in the week to do it. Then there are all the other household and garden jobs that we never get to because the hoovering and bathrooms repeat weekly. We have been trying to tidy on a Friday night so we can hoover first thing Saturday but that does require getting up and on with it. Friday night we get in from school run about 4 and are out again 5-6:30 for a club so we don't get loads of time before dinner and film night. Maybe we could move films to Saturday, once the tidying and hoovering are all done.

Stop doing everything
can kids get to stuff by themselves ? Other parents sharing the pick ups ?
can anyone else do hoovering get a robot?

Also …. Ive ditched the “ make memories” guilt

also dropped kids activities cant be arsed

full time slob weekends

Do whatever works for you family. Do you feel energised after doing something? I'd reframe it feeling the need to do something to thinking what do I want DC to experience? What do I want to do with them?

Do you have a partner to watch your kids? Sounds like you need a hobby/passion of your own to fulfil yourself. Running about after kids your whole life is dull and you need something for yourself

My partner usually takes them. My hobbies are reading and walking which I do in the week. I don't have much other than that. Maybe bike riding or cooking. All can be done around children as they are of an age they can manage those things or to occupy themselves. Just not feeling very passionate about getting up to do them at the weekend.

Yes I do feel good after getting out and doing stuff. But other people drain me and after interacting all week I feel broken by the weekend. There's some things that come to mind that I would like them to experience but I can't muster the effort for them. Things like camping, bike rides, cooking together.

Unfortunately it's too far to send them alone. No one goes as far as we know from our end of town either so can't share. My partner does tend to take them so it's just the getting ready. The house would have to be kept at a reason tidiness and my two leave books and toys everywhere and I am just as guilty if this too so robot hoover or cleaner are out until we can get our act together. We have too much stuff but no motivation to declutter either. Think I must be feeling a bit depressed today.

But clutter is incredibly draining.

It really is. But I know I'll look through everything and only feel able to get rid of a few things which won't make a dent and will feel like more wasted time. I know I'm really pessimistic today and I wonder what I can do to make next weekend better. Tomorrow we do have some plans so will feel better.