How do I handle hostility from another parent at school?

[Mummyof3T]

Long story, I was attacked by a parent of a child I was teaching (because I told the child off) and the Police were involved, this was over a year ago and I’ve moved on. Now the Sister of the parent who attacked me, is a mum at my daughters School and I see her constantly on the School run. Our children are in the same year and also moving onto secondary together. This mum constantly gives me daggers and grunts every time I walk past, it’s so childish. I have mentioned this to the School but they don’t care. It’s giving me so much anxiety knowing we have sports day and year six productions etc, I just don’t want to be near her. I’m fine with not talking and just getting on with it but the constant dirty looks and petty things are really hard to ignore. I want to enjoy the last few weeks for my daughter. I’ve moved on, why can’t she? What can I do?

Ignore, ignore, ignore. There’s nothing else you can do.

once your child moves to secondary you will almost never see her again.

I don’t mean to come across blunt, but unless you are willing to relocate/move your child to a different school and the school aren’t helping, then you just have to get on with it, ignore her and don’t engage.

I’m not condoning her behaviour but I certainty wouldn’t confront her or make any attempt to communicate

I agree with above, just completely ignore her, don't even look in her direction. Just act as though she doesn't even exist.

Look the other way , there is power in making this choice and you will feel liberated . Literally don’t look in her direction!

That sound horrible. At least it’s only a few weeks. Take someone with you to sports day if you can and then try to act like you don’t see her.

Not got the full story so can't comment.

I also agree. Also, if you are a teacher, can't you avoid the sports day etc anyway?

Do you have friends in the parent community that you can stick close to at the events you do need to attend?

Another vote for ignore re the grunts and dirty looks. Re the end of year production, I would aim to arrive on the early side so that you don't risk finding that you're forced to sit next to her because that's the only seat left. Presumably she won't actively try to sit next to you.

I feel so sorry for teachers having to deal with halfwit parents like this. I hope they got convicted for attacking you

Just ignore her shes the one making herself look foolish.

Stand your ground, glare back and ignore her.
You have every right to be there.

She’s clearly an unhinged moron so you just have to ignore her as thickos like her will never grow up and become civilised adults.

As previous posters have said, you’ve no choice but to ignore this mother and carry on living your life. Did the first parent (the parent of the child you taught) receive any sort of criminal record for her attack on you? You have my sympathies, so many teachers complain that parents today cannot accept any perceived criticism of their children. Even so, I can’t understand how this family can possibly justify their actions. I’m also concerned for your daughter, do you have a plan if this mother encourages her child to bully your daughter when they start Secondary school?

She only received a warning and not allowed to make any contact or come near me. I haven’t heard from her since and I’m ok with that, it’s just this Sister now!

It’s a different School unfortunately. Yes I have a couple of parents I can be near and my husband will come along.

Not a lot you can do about it. Neither can the school really. Just ask the teacher when she talks to the secondary to recommend they’re put in different forms, if they split the year groups in half, it would be even better to be in different halves of the year.

In the meantime ignore, ignore , ignore. Pretend she doesn’t exist. If she ever says anything keep it short, simple, polite and distant. Focus on your daughter and the other friends you have at school.

Luckily, once they’re at secondary there’s very little contact with other parent.