Would you ever propose to a man ?

[HotBothered]

Yes or no?

Maybe but my husband would get pretty cross.

I miss the laughing emoji. This was a gold star comment

If I want to to be married to my partner I will have to propose as he’s asked me twice and I said not at the moment so know he won’t ask again.

No. Because I don’t want to get married.

No because I don’t want to be married.

I actually can't remember which one of us said "so we're getting married aren't we?".
It was pretty much the goal when we started our relationship so there wasn't a need for a proposal as such.

Of course. Why not?

Surely if a couple is close enough that marriage might be on the cards, it's just a discussion they have between them?

No need for a proposal?

Like some of the others said, I wouldn't "propose", but I would/did initiate discussions about how we see our future and whether we want to get married and when.

No I would want the man to propose

This x10000

Getting married should be a joint decision and joint discussion! All this “secret”
proposal and asking the father belongs in the past.

For us it was a discussion early on in our relationship, did we both want marriage? How many children were we thinking? What did we think our lives would be like? We were early 20s and just starting out in the world when we met.

There was no proposal as such, we had a rough timeline, talked a lot, house sat for my sister to live together for 2 weeks as we were both living at our parents' houses, then moved in together a few months later due to a job. We had a timeline for all of these things. In line with that and talking about what we wanted in life we then went and chose a ring together. At that point we were already technically engaged as we had agreed to marry. We just didn't tell anyone until we had the ring so we have an anniversary for it but neither of us even knows what that is!

We have been together 30 years. If you have already agreed you will marry each other you are already engaged.

I agree with most.

Firstly, I wouldn't due to the fact I'm already married, but secondly in that we discussed together what our hopes and dreams and plans were. It was a joint decision that we would commit to start planning the wedding. This was decades ago, and I can't remember who started which discussions, but our relationship just evolved.

Yes I did.

I did and he said yes. We've been married 23 years.

Yes and I did , he’d asked me a few time before that though - 13 years in now

I did, 29 Feb 2016. Married on 2 June that year. Still very happy together.

I told him I wouldn’t move in without a ring on my finger. He purchased one a fortnight later. Does that count?

This!
Not a cringey insta moment.

If you mean "would I start the conversation about whether we should get married" then yes, I would and I did.

If you mean "would I go down on one knee with a big performance" then no. Because that's just not the kind of people we are. We're pragmatic rather than in it for big gestures.

Initiating a discussion about marriage, yes.
Actually proposing with a romantic gesture and a ring, no. It's just something I can't see myself doing as a woman.

I did, it was 29th February and we've been happily married for years 😊

Being a romantic <cough> I sent DH a text saying, 'Are we getting married or what?' He replied with, 'I suppose so!' It's our 14th anniversary this year.