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Can you do a push up?

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GreenCaterpillarOnALeaf · 02/07/2026 12:51

I am 26 and I cannot and never have been able to do a push up. DH says most women my age could do at least one, I think that’s BS. Btw other than my lanky arms I am quiet strong, I can leg press a lot and squat a decent amount, I am a healthy weight as well. I can pick up my kids so really I think I can do all I need to do.

So, can you do a push up? Either the one where you’re on your knees or the normal one. If you’re older then I guess my question is could you do one when you were at your peak physical fitness?

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Thecows · 02/07/2026 20:42

CalmWriter · 02/07/2026 17:33

Get help

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BathersOnTheLine · 02/07/2026 20:42

Your family Christmas sounds brilliant OP.

I'm totally here on Boxing Day to hear about your triumph.

AfogatoFirenze · 02/07/2026 20:48

Hotpants123 · 02/07/2026 12:55

Ha I am 60 and can do 15!
I couldn't do any at 25.
Practice, first on your knees, first table top position, then at an angle with your legs crossed behind you and in the air. Also practice the plank.
I am quite proud of my 15 push ups!

If I could do 15 at 60 I'd be popping them out in Asda

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GreenCaterpillarOnALeaf · 02/07/2026 20:54

Swiftsmith · 02/07/2026 20:10

It's not only to do with age though, it is to do with your body shape. It is significantly harder to do push ups when you're tall, with long arms and back, than it is if you are shorter.

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I’m short (well, above average for a woman in Scotland actually at 5’5) but I’m a bit lanky on the top and I’m pear shaped, so I don’t think I’m built for the push up but I am sure I can at least do one

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IwanttoWFH · 02/07/2026 21:04

I can do 25 full decent ones, then could do more if I dropped to my knees. That’s after two and a half years of weight training and practice though. You need upper body strength. It’s much easier for men as they naturally have more upper body strength.
I’d be very surprised if any woman who didn’t weight train could do a full, “proper” press up.

Twattergy · 02/07/2026 21:08

I could not do any push ups through my 20s 30s and half my 40s. At 51 I can do 10-12 and across a circuits class manage 40 to 50 in sets (not back to back but split across the session). Someone upthread said the most important thing so Ill repeat it - its as much about your core as your arms/shoulders. Its basically lowering your body as a plank so the more engaged and straight your body is, the easier it is on your arms. You will 100% be able to do a push up by xmas in fact id suggest you aim for 5. Dont bother doing it from your knees - better to push away from a wall to start with, to get used to the sensation of engaging your arms. Then at an incline. Then from the floor. Visualise your solid core. Also do lots of planks. My ability to push up came after I could do a plank with ease.

Twattergy · 02/07/2026 21:11

Oh yeah and also weight train your upper body! It's actually super easy to significantly increase shoulder and arm strength through lifting as a woman IMO.

Swimmingteacher21 · 02/07/2026 21:11

GreenCaterpillarOnALeaf · 02/07/2026 12:51

I am 26 and I cannot and never have been able to do a push up. DH says most women my age could do at least one, I think that’s BS. Btw other than my lanky arms I am quiet strong, I can leg press a lot and squat a decent amount, I am a healthy weight as well. I can pick up my kids so really I think I can do all I need to do.

So, can you do a push up? Either the one where you’re on your knees or the normal one. If you’re older then I guess my question is could you do one when you were at your peak physical fitness?

I’m nearly 40 and I could probably do 10ish. I’ve got a fairly physical job but it’s more cardio and I don’t do any kind of training or exercise outside of that that would specifically benefit my arm strength. I’m about 10-20pounds overweight as well. So yeah, I think it’s unusual you can’t do one, but not sure it’s specifically a bad thing?

minipie · 02/07/2026 21:22

I’m 45 and can do about 5 but that’s quite recent. I couldn’t do any before I started weight training a year or two ago.

No way could I have done any at 26. I don’t think I did any actual exercise between school and my 40s though.

GreenCaterpillarOnALeaf · 02/07/2026 21:24

Swimmingteacher21 · 02/07/2026 21:11

I’m nearly 40 and I could probably do 10ish. I’ve got a fairly physical job but it’s more cardio and I don’t do any kind of training or exercise outside of that that would specifically benefit my arm strength. I’m about 10-20pounds overweight as well. So yeah, I think it’s unusual you can’t do one, but not sure it’s specifically a bad thing?

Guessing you’re a swim teacher? I’m a maths tutor so I wouldn’t say my job is physical at all 😭. I know on the whole I’m pretty fit so I think it’s just a case of working on my upper body and core and locking in because there’s no way I’m handing over £100 on Christmas Day in front of my whole family… my brothers would absolutely never let me live it down

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HeidiLite · 02/07/2026 21:25

AfogatoFirenze · 02/07/2026 20:48

If I could do 15 at 60 I'd be popping them out in Asda

I know you were kidding, but I got my first pull up at age of 47 and I indeed go around looking for random bars so I can do a few. Casually. 😁

Everybodysinthehousetonight · 02/07/2026 21:32

I'm a PT, Pilates instructor and physio. If you are talking about full push up on toes, simply the majority of men can and the majority of women cannot. A kneeling push up is quite different and more achievable for females.

Tonissister · 02/07/2026 21:36

Not proper ones. I can do lay down push ups. Endless push ups on my knees or on raised surfaces, and real push ups (only about 10 of them) if I wear a booty band over my upper arms. But even at my fittest I could never do a single real push up unaided. I have never been able to do a pull up either. Not one. Despite spending an entire summer practising all the exercises that lead up to them.

PurpleCoo · 02/07/2026 21:49

I am 50 and can do full push ups. Its quite new though, but I have been doing Body Pump (twice a week), athletic pilates and reformer (both once a week) for the past year, have been eating lots of protein, building muscle and practising lots.

HippeePrincess · 02/07/2026 21:54

No I’ve never been able to do a single one, not even on my knees and I remember being completely humiliated and sobbing being made to try and do them in PE at school. I’ve tried over the years with all sorts of strength based exercise and I can’t do anything, pull ups, planks etc are all impossible for me.

Aliceisagooddog · 02/07/2026 21:56

It's definitely harder for women, not an excuse but true. Even unfit men can do push ups, it's mechanical structure.

Pansykavalier · 02/07/2026 22:04

Good push-up tutorial…

Swimmingteacher21 · 02/07/2026 22:07

GreenCaterpillarOnALeaf · 02/07/2026 21:24

Guessing you’re a swim teacher? I’m a maths tutor so I wouldn’t say my job is physical at all 😭. I know on the whole I’m pretty fit so I think it’s just a case of working on my upper body and core and locking in because there’s no way I’m handing over £100 on Christmas Day in front of my whole family… my brothers would absolutely never let me live it down

Funnily enough, I’m not a swim teacher anymore and haven’t been for years. Totally different job now and the only swimming I do is playing with my kids at the pool occasionally.

But you can definitely do it and will win that bet! Good luck!

Jade9114 · 02/07/2026 22:12

yes I can do about ten standard press ups

BogRollBOGOF · 02/07/2026 22:22

I've got better through my 40s. I can do about 8-10 depending on energy levels.

I can also lift myself out at the swimming pool, particularly as mine is an annoying 150cm deep (annoying at 157cm tall as I can't breathe through the top of my head) and it has a raised edge so I have to lift from above my head height.

TheOliveFinch · 02/07/2026 23:02

PurpleCoo · 02/07/2026 21:49

I am 50 and can do full push ups. Its quite new though, but I have been doing Body Pump (twice a week), athletic pilates and reformer (both once a week) for the past year, have been eating lots of protein, building muscle and practising lots.

I found the only time I was quite good at push ups was when I did body pump regularly. I’ve gone off pump so maybe time to revisit it

OhBettyCalmDown · 03/07/2026 05:46

I can only do the ones on my knees. I’ve never been able to do a proper one and if I’m honest never cared enough to try. In your case though I’d be planning what I was going to spend my winnings on!

SummitWrong · 03/07/2026 05:54

I love this 😆 You're going to absolutely rinse him 💪

I just tried. I can do half of one - admittedly the half that gravity is helping with!

I'm currently training for a specific event and already wondering what the next challenge is for me, maybe this is it? 🤔

TokyoTantrum · 03/07/2026 06:22

36 years old and in my second trimester of my second pregnancy. I have lost a lot of muscle due to pregnancy fatigue and my son getting older and faster at eating breakfast- I used to squeeze in a half an hour home workout while he watched from his highchair.

I can do 3 normal push ups with decent form, and then start to get sloppy. I have some long term problems with my wrists that don't help!

If you want to work up to doing a full push up, start with incline ones. Do some against your kitchen worktop while waiting for stuff to boil, or against your banister on the landing. Make sure you use full range of movement. You should be able to feel your shoulder blades engaging.

TokyoTantrum · 03/07/2026 06:24

Pansykavalier · 02/07/2026 22:04

Good push-up tutorial…

Oh I love this channel! She's great, especially with advice for older women.