My DD24 has had ongoing depression and mental health issues for several years. These have been relatively stable until the last 6/8 months when she started a relationship with a new female partner. Since then Dd's mental health has declined drastically...
She's self harming (something she hadn't done for a long time before this). She's threatening to end her life. Regularly has panic attacks. She also keeps disappearing for hours or sometimes days on end which involves the police coming out and searching for her
We've tried to talk to her but she won't tell us what's changed or what's wrong. Most of the time she now refuses to see us in person and our only contact is via the girlfriend or in a very short phonecall.
She's been assessed by MH services once after we insisted she went to a&e. She only agreed to go if her GF went with her and we didn't. She wouldn't cooperate with them and they said that she didn't meet the criteria for being sectioned.
I think the Gf is very controlling of her (I have seen evidence of this when we saw them together in the early stages of the relationship) and that this is contributing to Dd's MH issues. I would be happier if they split up but DD won't entertain the idea.
Can I ask for her to be reassessed by MH services (without the gf being present this time) or is there much else we can do? I feel like DD is spiralling and is only going to get worse without help